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FireFox

FireFox

Paragon
Apr 8, 2020
920
Experiencing guys rejecting me and boys at school making regularly fun of my appearance made not like my appearance. I was confident as teenage girl, I had the confidence to talk boys but guys rejected me while all the other girls at school were getting boyfriends.

I used to be so jealous of girls in my school who had blonde hair because the boys always noticed them, saw them as pretty, were nicer to them and were always interested in them whereas me having black hair, dark brown eyes and brown skin I just felt my features were so boring with nothing standing out. It didn't help either experiencing guys I liked including the non white always picked the white girls over me. I envied these girls and I wished I was them in being noticed and desired and wanted. In adulthood I still do have a jealously towards blonde haired blue eyed women because of the male rejection.

Last month I went travelling to Italy and spent a week in Venice. When I was at Gatwick Airport I was getting male attention from the British men I was in shock because all my life I was invisible to men and always ignored. In Venice when I was visiting one of the attractions I got so much male attention from the Italian menand the men were so nice. I did a lot of socialising and talking to people during my trip.

My family think it is a change in my appearance. It was surreal because all my life I was the invisible girl then woman. I now realise just because that guy I wanted rejected me it does not mean I am unattractive his rejection of me is his own personal opinion, opinions are not fact.

My confidence and self esstem is starting to improve
 
Pluto

Pluto

Meowing to go out
Dec 27, 2020
1,862
Happy to hear you've finally found your worth.

As much as our society's fixation with external beauty is far from ideal, we have to work with it to some extent. I would advise you to put effort into a fitness regime, as the payoff is a further boost in your physical and mental wellbeing. Wishing you the best always.
 
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outatime_85

Mage
May 17, 2022
528
It is good to read that you are making progress and experiencing some form of happiness, and it is always good to read that people here are making progress, however small it may be.

That said, keep your head up and your eyes open because, even though you thought no one had eyes for you or wanted or needed you, you now know otherwise.

To quote Bruce Lee, "It's like a finger pointing away to the moon. Don't concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory!"
 
FireFox

FireFox

Paragon
Apr 8, 2020
920
I'm so pleased for you! ❤️ Congratulations and well done for getting this far, it obviously paid off ❤️
@jodes2 Thank you 😊

Sorry for my late reply a lot has happened in my life so I have been offline a lot. I was never expecting this to happen. All my life I was always ignored and overlooked by guys while all the girls and women around me got male love and attention. It hurt watching on the sidelines.

Being open and honest about the pain this caused me I have received online hate, dismissal, criticism and judgment from other women in online social media spaces and communities for women. The whole thing made feel nobody understood how I felt and at times felt like I was wasn't a real woman because my life experiences were not in line with the majority of women even having other women accuse me of being a troll was actually hurtful.
It is good to read that you are making progress and experiencing some form of happiness, and it is always good to read that people here are making progress, however small it may be.

That said, keep your head up and your eyes open because, even though you thought no one had eyes for you or wanted or needed you, you now know otherwise.

To quote Bruce Lee, "It's like a finger pointing away to the moon. Don't concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory!"
@outatime_85 Sorry for my late reply lot has happened in my life so I have been offline a lot. I was never expecting this to happen. All my life I was always ignored and overlooked by guys while all the girls and women around me got male love and attention. It hurt watching on the sidelines.

In my new job I have been getting on well my work colleagues and I have even been receiving male attention. It has been exciting to experience because all my life I have always been ignored by guys. I was confident as a teenage girl and in my 20s but guys still rejected me.

Being open and honest about the pain this caused me I have received online hate, dismissal, criticism and judgment from other women in online social media spaces and communities for women. The whole thing made feel nobody understood how I felt and at times felt like I was wasn't a real woman because my life experiences were not in line with the majority of women even having other women accuse me of being a troll was actually hurtful. The online judgment, lack of empathy and pure online hate from other women in online communities for women made me feel like I was not a woman.

Loads of women really underestimate the impact frequent male rejection and never being desired can have on a person. I do feel too different from all the other women because of my experiences and women my age being unable to relate to me and I can not relate to them either.
@firefox that is absolutely FANTASTIC to hear this. I am so happy for you.
@locked*n*loaded sorry I have been distant lately so many amazing things has been happening in my life. I went travelling first then when I came back to the UK I had a job interview for this job I applied for and I was successful. It is a WFH and majority of my work colleagues live in different towns and cities across the South of England but sometimes the company organises events in the office.

In my new job I have been getting on well my work colleagues and I have even been receiving male attention. In one of the office days at work I ended up going on a walk with two of my male work colleagues and we had so much fun. It was wonderful experiencing a man wanting to spend time with me. One of the men even emailed me the next day saying good morning and looking forward to seeing me around.

It has been exciting to experience because all my life I have always been ignored by guys. I was confident as a teenage girl and in my 20s but guys still rejected me. I do feel too different from all the other women because of my experiences. Opening up about my insecurities in the past especially this year I have gotten so much judgement, criticism, lack of empathy and online hate from other women in online communities for women made me feel like I was not a woman because none of the women online could not relate to me and my experiences and how I saw myself because of my experiences.
 
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