• Welcome to SanctionedSuicide, a pro-choice forum for the discussion of mental illness and suicide. Please read our rules and our Principles.
    If you are in need of immediate support, please call the Samaritans hotline at (877) 870-4673, or check our recovery resources.

  • If you haven't yet, we highly encourage you to check out our Recovery Resources thread!
Ryan.s

Ryan.s

-
Joined
Nov 29, 2019
Messages
224
I’m so sorry friend. And don’t worry about your English. It’s fine! I know it might not be a help at all but you can PM me (message me) anytime if you want. I’m here for you and I’m sure many others here on SS will be willing to be here for you too.
 
D

Deleted member 1465

_
Joined
Jul 31, 2018
Messages
6,926
Always. Four years now. Used to have neighbours I could visit, but now I can't since i moved. This imposed self isolation is no different to my normal life. I'm odd though, whilst I enjoy human contact, I don't mind being without it either, to an extent.
Everything is going online. I spend time on here and I have FB messenger and Google Hangouts open. Okay, so the sad thing is I get more messages on here, but hey.
Is there anything creative you can do on your own? Anything you've been putting off because it's a pain? Cleaning the house, doing the garden, updating your CV? Learning how to code? Writing a book? Don't know what you are into, but maybe something you'd always meant to do but never gotten around to.
 
BlackPoppet

BlackPoppet

Wise woman and Celtic sky person
Joined
Mar 7, 2020
Messages
1,001
Chrisdddh said:
Guys, anyone have tips for dealing extreme boredom and isolation? I have reached a point where I don’t have single person to contact? Sorry for the poor English.
:aw:
Chrisdddh said:
Guys, anyone have tips for dealing extreme boredom and isolation? I have reached a point where I don’t have single person to contact? Sorry for the poor English.
:hug: PM me if you need someone to chat to.
 
Last edited:
ImsooDone1N

ImsooDone1N

Specialist
Joined
Nov 22, 2018
Messages
334
Sorry to hear that your in this situation. I also don’t have any one (aside from people online) to contact. It’s very lonely, painful and makes me feel ashamed- but I’m getting used to it. I think some people above me posted some good suggestions.
 
BlackPoppet

BlackPoppet

Wise woman and Celtic sky person
Joined
Mar 7, 2020
Messages
1,001
ImsooDone1N said:
Sorry to hear that your in this situation. I also don’t have any one (aside from people online) to contact. It’s very lonely, painful and makes me feel ashamed- but I’m getting used to it. I think some people above me posted some good suggestions.
you've got nothing to be ashamed of. However society does have stuff to be ashamed of, because of the systems that run it. PM me if you need someone to chat to. :hug:
 
WhiteDespair

WhiteDespair

The Temporary Problem is Life
Joined
Oct 24, 2019
Messages
734
Yes. It stems from poor self esteem. So, I isolate (because I'm terrible and people shouldn't be around me) and do nothing (because I don't deserve good things because I'm terrible). Awful beliefs to have.
 
Blu_1

Blu_1

Love, until you can love no more IG: trueblue_1010
Joined
Mar 13, 2020
Messages
147
Chrisdddh said:
Guys, anyone have tips for dealing extreme boredom and isolation? I have reached a point where I don’t have single person to contact? Sorry for the poor English.

There are sooo many lonely people in this world. Yet somehow there is an in-built(?) reluctance(not all of them course) to reach out.

Perhaps “happy, shiny” people are as miserable as everyone else, just that much more functional, and more “equipped” at putting out a so-called stronger front. *Randomly ponders*
 
the box is empty

the box is empty

Sometimes the fall kills you. Sometimes you fly.
Joined
Mar 8, 2020
Messages
356
Blu_1 said:
There are sooo many lonely people in this world. Yet somehow there is an in-built(?) reluctance(not all of them course) to reach out.

Perhaps “happy, shiny” people are as miserable as everyone else, just that much more functional, and more “equipped” at putting out a so-called stronger front. *Randomly ponders*

I always wonder how some people can keep themselves distracted. I keep overthinking everything. My mind just keeps running a million miles a minute . My thoughts have to extrapolate and play out every possible scenario to every bit of information that enters it. All the negative outcome scenarios keep me from acting appropriately.
 
Blu_1

Blu_1

Love, until you can love no more IG: trueblue_1010
Joined
Mar 13, 2020
Messages
147
the box is empty said:
My thoughts have to extrapolate and play out every possible scenario to every bit of information that enters it. All the negative outcome scenarios keep me from acting appropriately.
Would you say you might be a perfectionist? You find solace in knowing all possibilities and enjoy achieving a sense of completion, so from there you know where to go? It is wonderful to be able to think deeply.

These days I am a mere over-worrier and sometimes can’t think more than a minute. Hope what I said made some sense, lol.
 
Last edited:
the box is empty

the box is empty

Sometimes the fall kills you. Sometimes you fly.
Joined
Mar 8, 2020
Messages
356
Blu_1 said:
Would you say you might be a perfectionist? You find solace in knowing all possibilities and enjoy achieving a sense of completion, so from there you know where to go? It is wonderful to be able to think deeply.

These days I am a mere over-worrier and sometimes can’t think more than a minute. Hope what I said made some sense, lol.

When I was really little I remember hearing the quote "Chance favours a prepared mind." It's something that I kept close to heart. I used to hate how luck and chance always felt like they were the deciding factors in a LOT of scenarios. "Tough luck, kid" used to always infuriate me. So I figure, the best solution is to manipulate luck. And one of the simplest ways to do that was to gauge the different outcomes.

You can tell I'm not big on gambling.

The quarantine has everyone on edge. These forums have been a godsend. I've always suffered with loneliness but I feel less alone now knowing a lot of the world feels the same way.
 
D

Deadhead Frank

It’s Over!
Joined
Aug 29, 2019
Messages
593
Yeah like some other people said my life isn’t much different even with this quarantine since I have been isolated in many ways for years now however it does still add to it. What really sucks is being physically limited as well as isolated because I could do more things and entertain myself more if I wasn’t fighting my body while I was isolated but I guess if I wasn’t as physically limited then to a certain degree I wouldn’t be as isolated. Ha. I still do enjoy time to myself a good bit though regardless of issues. Just like the box is empty said I also overthink things big time for example my own death. Been overthinking it for yrs. As far as extreme boredom and isolation goes which I can relate too big time I don’t know I guess it depends on what you like and are able to do and whether or not we are talking inside or outside .
internet research like this site or whatever
video games
books
organizing your room
workouts with exercise bands
smoking pot or cigarettes and starring into space
tv
music\ guitars
idont know but I hope everyone can find some way to fight the isolation and boredom because that is what this life is it’s a fight to the finish on way or another.
 
A

Arvinneedstodie

Student
Joined
Sep 17, 2018
Messages
135
I started isolating myself back in 2014, and things only got worse and worse ever since. Apart from my weekly thearpies, I got nothing. I don't even talk to myself anymore. Crazy to think I have reached this point, and I have accepted this faith. I dont even try to reach out anymore. No point. I was born to be alone.
 
Hollow Point

Hollow Point

A̵l̷w̷a̷y̸s̷ ̷t̸i̸r̵e̸d̶
Joined
Mar 24, 2020
Messages
120
Arvinneedstodie said:
I started isolating myself back in 2014, and things only got worse and worse ever since. Apart from my weekly thearpies, I got nothing. I don't even talk to myself anymore. Crazy to think I have reached this point, and I have accepted this faith. I dont even try to reach out anymore. No point. I was born to be alone.

I'm at that point myself too. I've come to prefer it. Or at least I've convinced myself I do. I'm cool with sticking to online stuff like this. I get to be real and not be judged.
 
NeverMatteredAnyway

NeverMatteredAnyway

I matter now.
Joined
Jan 13, 2020
Messages
148
Hollow Point said:
I'm at that point myself too. I've come to prefer it. Or at least I've convinced myself I do. I'm cool with sticking to online stuff like this. I get to be real and not be judged.
I was more ok with it when I was younger, I had more years in front of me and my work and lifestyle kind of required independence. Now that Im old, Im just plain lonely. I was lonely then too, but I had the consolation of enjoying my job and thinking surely things would be different in the future. Nothing changed except I got too old to do my fun job, lol Im still alone. It sucks. I wonder, what was the day/night I missed meeting that one person who would have been my best friend. Was I working? Was my car broke down? Lol As far as being real, Im pretty real even in real life. Maybe thats why no one likes me
 
Last edited:
Enabran255

Enabran255

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
83
Yea, I'm feeling extremely hopeless and lonely. The only friend I had recently deleted me, she said I was just too "negative" and "depressing" to keep talking to. I feel like I'm at my breaking point. I hate where I live, and I can no longer even escape here because of the fucking virus, the negative effects of which are going to drag on for years. My living situation is a constant source of negativity daily.

In the past I had a close friend who was in a similar situation to me, and we spent a lot of time playing stuff together online. We had our ups and downs, but she helped me through my loneliness and isolation a lot. Unfortunately I lost her last year when she ended her life.

I would love to be able to find friends again but it just seems impossible. I can't even really play games anymore because the nerves in my hand have been injured from repetitive strain, which makes it difficult to use it for any period of time. I was getting PT for it which seemed to be slowly helping, but now the place has closed indefinitely from the pandemic.

This virus has done a great job of extinguishing any small amount of hope I had remaining for my future.
 
D

Deleted member 1465

_
Joined
Jul 31, 2018
Messages
6,926
the box is empty said:
I always wonder how some people can keep themselves distracted. I keep overthinking everything. My mind just keeps running a million miles a minute . My thoughts have to extrapolate and play out every possible scenario to every bit of information that enters it. All the negative outcome scenarios keep me from acting appropriately.
That is exactly how my mind naturally works. It van actually be an advantage in some areas of life. It served me well at work. But now...not so much.
 
  • Like
Reactions: NeverMatteredAnyway
NeverMatteredAnyway

NeverMatteredAnyway

I matter now.
Joined
Jan 13, 2020
Messages
148
Enabran255 said:
Yea, I'm feeling extremely hopeless and lonely. The only friend I had recently deleted me, she said I was just too "negative" and "depressing" to keep talking to. I feel like I'm at my breaking point. I hate where I live, and I can no longer even escape here because of the fucking virus, the negative effects of which are going to drag on for years. My living situation is a constant source of negativity daily.

In the past I had a close friend who was in a similar situation to me, and we spent a lot of time playing stuff together online. We had our ups and downs, but she helped me through my loneliness and isolation a lot. Unfortunately I lost her last year when she ended her life.

I would love to be able to find friends again but it just seems impossible. I can't even really play games anymore because the nerves in my hand have been injured from repetitive strain, which makes it difficult to use it for any period of time. I was getting PT for it which seemed to be slowly helping, but now the place has closed indefinitely from the pandemic.

This virus has done a great job of extinguishing any small amount of hope I had remaining for my future.
Im lonely too. I hate being locked up too. There are free learning sites on the internet, you can learn to code and all kinds of stuff. You can binge netflix. I understand nothing comes close to fixing that feeling. Nothing comes close to fixing it for me thats for sure. I spend my days trying to distract myself. This site helps.
Underscore said:
That is exactly how my mind naturally works. It van actually be an advantage in some areas of life. It served me well at work. But now...not so much.
What job is it good to have an overthinking mind? Seriously I need to apply once this insanity is over with
 
Last edited:
Enabran255

Enabran255

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
83
NeverMatteredAnyway said:
Im lonely too. I hate being locked up too. There are free learning sites on the internet, you can learn to code and all kinds of stuff. You can binge netflix. I understand nothing comes close to fixing that feeling. Nothing comes close to fixing it for me thats for sure. I spend my days trying to distract myself. This site helps.

Yea, I've taken much advantage of learning things on youtube and the like. It can be motivating if you find the right niche. I know how to code pretty well, but my hand problem pretty much puts the kabosh on any serious coding sessions. Programming used to be a big passion of mine but all the energy has died now thanks to my hand and other things. I think the only way I can realistically get back into coding is if there becomes a way to bypass my hand completely and code by some type of direct neural interface.

My cope was mostly watching anime, but with the loss of hope I've lost motivation for that too now. There's stuff on netflix I was planning to watch but I can't overcome this crushing feeling of pointlessness to do so.
 
  • Hugs
Reactions: NeverMatteredAnyway
NeverMatteredAnyway

NeverMatteredAnyway

I matter now.
Joined
Jan 13, 2020
Messages
148
Enabran255 said:
Yea, I've taken much advantage of learning things on youtube and the like. It can be motivating if you find the right niche. I know how to code pretty well, but my hand problem pretty much puts the kabosh on any serious coding sessions. Programming used to be a big passion of mine but all the energy has died now thanks to my hand and other things. I think the only way I can realistically get back into coding is if there becomes a way to bypass my hand completely and code by some type of direct neural interface.

My cope was mostly watching anime, but with the loss of hope I've lost motivation for that too now. There's stuff on netflix I was planning to watch but I can't overcome this crushing feeling of pointlessness to do so.
Can you go for a walk? My go to used to be running, everythings closed now, I live in a shitty place n am as afraid of the police harassing me as getting jumped. Im working up the courage now lol
 
  • Like
Reactions: Enabran255
Enabran255

Enabran255

Member
Joined
Oct 2, 2019
Messages
83
NeverMatteredAnyway said:
Can you go for a walk? My go to used to be running, everythings closed now, I live in a shitty place n am as afraid of the police harassing me as getting jumped. Im working up the courage now lol
I have gone for walks in the past but I might have missed my window for that now. It's not practical to walk during the winter because of the cold and snow, and once spring arrives the blackflies, deer flies, ticks, mosquitoes, midges and other biting insects attack ruthlessly if I'm outside for any length of time. It looks like it's about to rain for 2-3 weeks straight beginning tomorrow, but maybe there will be an opportunity in there somewhere when I can attempt it before all the bugs wake up. I have found it productive to go on walks, it just becomes easy to forget to do so given how limiting the climate here is for it.
 
  • Like
Reactions: NeverMatteredAnyway
NeverMatteredAnyway

NeverMatteredAnyway

I matter now.
Joined
Jan 13, 2020
Messages
148
Enabran255 said:
I have gone for walks in the past but I might have missed my window for that now. It's not practical to walk during the winter because of the cold and snow, and once spring arrives the blackflies, deer flies, ticks, mosquitoes, midges and other biting insects attack ruthlessly if I'm outside for any length of time. It looks like it's about to rain for 2-3 weeks straight beginning tomorrow, but maybe there will be an opportunity in there somewhere when I can attempt it before all the bugs wake up. I have found it productive to go on walks, it just becomes easy to forget to do so given how limiting the climate here is for it.
Oh, you live where theres nature. I'll trade you some ghetto neighbors and homeless crackheads for some snow and ticks LOL
Enabran255 said:
I have gone for walks in the past but I might have missed my window for that now. It's not practical to walk during the winter because of the cold and snow, and once spring arrives the blackflies, deer flies, ticks, mosquitoes, midges and other biting insects attack ruthlessly if I'm outside for any length of time. It looks like it's about to rain for 2-3 weeks straight beginning tomorrow, but maybe there will be an opportunity in there somewhere when I can attempt it before all the bugs wake up. I have found it productive to go on walks, it just becomes easy to forget to do so given how limiting the climate here is for it.
Hell I'll take ALL your biting bugs if you take my neighbors lol
 
Last edited:
Similar threads

Similar threads