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couldntthinkofaname

couldntthinkofaname

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Aug 31, 2018
565
my mom is so narcissistc its disturbing

my biggest mistake was to think that my family would really care about me...in the end they are like other people...strangers who are busy with their own life - at least cant rely on them
 
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Fallen_From_Grace

Fallen_From_Grace

An Angel’s Broken Wings
Sep 26, 2018
46
I hate a lot of my family for various reasons. There’s a lot of drama on both sides and I have chosen to stay out of it. I have moved out to a place farther away from their influence and managed to stay out of the black hole they try to cause. Thankfully nearly all of my family live on one side of the state while the more sane ones are more towards where I live.
 
Lunar

Lunar

Student
Aug 14, 2018
189
I suppose I would have every reason to hate my mother for mentally and physically abusing me as a child but I don't for some reason. Well, maybe I did when I was younger, but that diminished with time when I removed her from my life years ago. I don't think I have the energy anymore... I just feel empty about so many things. As for other members of my family I've never really had anything to do with them other than my dad, they're all too wrapped and busy with their own lives and drama from what I've heard.
 
Pointlessabyss

Pointlessabyss

Impulse will takeover one day...
Sep 17, 2018
294
Can’t say I hate them or love them. My parents are just strangers that exsist in my life, they live in their own perfect little bubble. They don’t disturb me so I don’t bother with them.

Gonna sound as if I’m an arsehole and fucked up but hey ho :
they seem pretty simple to me and quite thick... I struggle to relate or hold a conversation with them especially my mum.
 
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Caustic Cardinals

Caustic Cardinals

Enlightened
Sep 1, 2018
1,340
My family is too dysfunctional to really have any strong feelings either way on any individual with the exception of my father that is he's the definition of a piece of shit psycho schizophrenic pedophile
 
Caustic Cardinals

Caustic Cardinals

Enlightened
Sep 1, 2018
1,340
maybe hate is just a strong word


im just disappointed - as soon as i got real problems they were just not there. i dont know if they are overchallenged, too busy with their own problems or just dont care
My family actively under minded my education myself perceptions my confidence my future so I think they were over engaged and destroy me that might just b Wishful hoping in all actuality they were apathetic
 
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samhelloall9

Experienced
Jul 16, 2018
297
Sure do, my mother I have a softer spot for, but gosh she has her moments where she's just...I don't like when people around me, family or not, are "firm". But I also have my suspicions my mother is bi-polar and my old man OCD/perhaps even some traits of PTSD or social anxiety.

Both are drainers to me, as are relatives and others (it's all genetics people so there's your answer why I include relatives) but there were some good times. The caring when I was sick, the birthday and christmas celebrations, buying me toys shopping, cooking dinner, you know..just the usual mother stuff growing up.

The rest of the times, no.

I really appreciate those times. Or when they were generous, in good moods, etc. My old man, I've never really understood where I 'stood' with him. He can be a nice, generous guy, but he can also be overbearing and pretty demanding. But hey, I'm lazy, and I'm not cut out for working life.

It could just be my being an adult nowadays (I'm 24), maybe I'm just too man a man-child.

So yes, I do, awful as that may sound. But I get the feeling everyone shows their true colours, likewise let's say I was to, they'd likely be pretty mad.

You get what I mean all, right? It's like a son or daughter who commits a crime or marries the wrong person against their parents wishes. They'll use the line "I have no son/daughter anymore" that's the emotion I'm saying.

People, even family, show true colours in moments like that. Understandable, sure, but I still find it another reason for me not to feel "guilty" if I ever do...you know.

So based on that sentence above: I won't feel guilty or feel bad...not in the slightest. Just sorry for myself. Selfish, but please respect my view.
 
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Lizzie S.

Lizzie S.

Experienced
Sep 2, 2018
258
Yes, especially my mom. She's stolen from me, verbally abused me since I was 13, and has threatened to throw me out of a car, and told me to kill myself because she thought I was bluffing. I suspect she's a narcissist. Definitely one of the main reasons I wanna die. My dad is a little better but doesn't protect me from my mom and can also be mean.
 
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Morning Angel

Useless Broken Wings
Aug 8, 2018
619
I don’t hate them but I just never belonged with them. My family are business and money minded people and despite being rather gifted in the arts, I was often discouraged as a child because they thought it was a waste of time. In some ways, they were right. I am the only artistic and helping oriented person in my family, and I was not built to be understood by them.

Growing up, my mother had always been unstable and very emotionally/physically abusive. So much harsh mental abuse it scarred me for years... and took 7 years of therapy to undo only a portion of it. I also had to deal with a lot of negativity once I came out to them. Since then, they have let go of me and I haven’t been at a family holiday in close to 4 years.

I have always been a stranger they tolerafed.... and yet for some reason still I feel guilty they will lose me soon. Makes no sense but it’s true. It would have been much better for them had I not existed.
 
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Mr2005

Mr2005

Don't shoot the messenger, give me the gun
Sep 25, 2018
3,370
my mom is so narcissistc its disturbing

my biggest mistake was to think that my family would really care about me...in the end they are like other people...strangers who are busy with their own life - at least cant rely on them
Yes this exactly. I relied on them and it cost me everything. That was my mistake I suppose but I don't really care how much it hurts them
 
stellabelle

stellabelle

ethereal
Dec 14, 2018
3,845
my mom is so narcissistc its disturbing

my biggest mistake was to think that my family would really care about me...in the end they are like other people...strangers who are busy with their own life - at least cant rely on them

Oh absolutely. There’s a subreddit called raisedbynarcissists.
I’m surrounded by nothing but toxic people, and they are and always have been one of the primary reasons I’ve wanted to CTB, throughout childhood and now well into adulthood.
 
Darrenloses

Darrenloses

Member
Nov 27, 2018
89
My dad is a complete asshole, completely selfish and I and my siblings had a terrible upbringing because of him. Not to mention his mum was in full denial and would try and cover up his actions (he was abusive, I'll be vague with that).
 
ScorpiusDragon

ScorpiusDragon

Mage
Mar 25, 2019
591
Why do some people decide to have kids...
That's what I think everyday when I reflect on my childhood. I wish I was never born.
Oh absolutely. There’s a subreddit called raisedbynarcissists.
I’m surrounded by nothing but toxic people, and they are and always have been one of the primary reasons I’ve wanted to CTB, throughout childhood and now well into adulthood.
I used to go on that subreddit very frequently.
 
Tabbyql

Tabbyql

Chronic people pleaser
Mar 13, 2019
284
After everything I feel nothing towards any of them anymore. I got pushed out again, and this time i don't wanna come back. I was nothing to any of them, and I always will be.
 
woxihuanni

woxihuanni

Illuminated
Aug 19, 2019
3,299
My family is fucking suffocating. They should have never been allowed to breed.

My mother does not understand the concept of living as opposed to nobly suffering. For instance, she has never enjoyed a drink in her life, so even though I don't remotely have an alcohol problem, she will ask me to be careful so I don't get 'sick'. She cannot even bring herself to use the dirty word 'drunk'. It's just that if it is not a pleasure she doesn't know, it has to be evil. Yelling at her not to do it doesn't work.

She wants my relationship to work because that is what I want, but cannot really understand why it should matter. When it was heavenly bliss in the very beginning, and I shared the good news with her, she did not react at all. As in, nothing, nada. It felt as if I was the most embarrassing excuse for a human being to believe it could be good. As if I'd just revealed I was about to burn myself. As if nobody could love me or make me happy, that was a humiliating mistake to believe.

I don't care that she was numb because she has depression. There are people in this world with depression who will at least fake some gladness for your happy news.

Fuck everything, really.
 
Wayfaerer

Wayfaerer

JFMSUF
Aug 21, 2019
1,924
No. Well, I kind of hate my parents but I'd say that I deeply resent them rather than hate them outright.
 
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