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azucaramargo

azucaramargo

Enlightened
Sep 16, 2018
1,010
There's a TV-show creator whom I really admire. I friended him on Facebook, wrote him a message, and was floored to receive a response. I assumed it was an assistant, and I said as much. He said it was really him. We have messaged back and forth every so often, and it has been the highlight of the year. I am ashamed how happy and proud I feel when I receive correspondence from him. I spent hours reading about him online, Googling his family members, trying to find out more about his life. Eventually, I became so ashamed of my fantasies about being this guy's friend that I kind of torpedo'd the whole thing. I basically wrote to him and made a comment about knowing the country in which his brother lived, and I told him I was struggling with mental-health issues, and that I couldn't handle the correspondence anymore. I just couldn't keep it in perspective. I was oversharing, and gushing, and being the total opposite of cool. After a while, I came to the conclusion that that had to have been an assistant; he wouldn't have time for all that chit chat with a damn stranger. But, now I miss that correspondence -- even if it wasn't really with the real celeb. I feel bad that I couldn't just enjoy something for what it was -- making such a big deal of things and ultimately tanking the one nice little thing that's going on in my otherwise dismal life. Does anyone else do that? Latch on to celebs? I really felt nuts. I don't want to be a crazy person. Would love to hear from others. I need you guys. Thank you for being there.
 
Angst Filled Fuck Up

Angst Filled Fuck Up

Super duper enlightened
Sep 9, 2018
1,708
I've been infatuated with a minor celebrity since 2002. I've never acted on it or tried to make contact as I know that's just weird. I've moved past it in the sense that I have carried on and lived my life as normally as possible, but I do still look at her pics and interviews etc a lot. It's strange too because I'm not a celebrity person in the least, however I haven't been able to fully shake the hold she has on me.

I always felt like I was probably completely alone in feeling something like this for someone I'll never meet, but I guess not. I always found it embarrassing too, like it's only the kind of thing maybe a teenage girl would experience. I wonder if it's ever made me a little blasé towards real women I've been with. But either way OP, you're definitely not alone.
 
azucaramargo

azucaramargo

Enlightened
Sep 16, 2018
1,010
I've been infatuated with a minor celebrity since 2002. I've never acted on it or tried to make contact as I know that's just weird. I've moved past it in the sense that I have carried on and lived my life as normally as possible, but I do still look at her pics and interviews etc a lot. It's strange too because I'm not a celebrity person in the least, however I haven't been able to fully shake the hold she has on me.

I always felt like I was probably completely alone in feeling something like this for someone I'll never meet, but I guess not. I always found it embarrassing too, like it's only the kind of thing maybe a teenage girl would experience. I wonder if it's ever made me a little blasé towards real women I've been with. But either way OP, you're definitely not alone.
Thanks for responding. That's cool you didn't act on your infatuation. Now I'm dying to know who this celebrity is! :) What does OP stand for?
 
throwaway123

throwaway123

Hell0
Aug 5, 2018
1,445
I've been infatuated with a minor celebrity since 2002. I've never acted on it or tried to make contact as I know that's just weird. I've moved past it in the sense that I have carried on and lived my life as normally as possible, but I do still look at her pics and interviews etc a lot. It's strange too because I'm not a celebrity person in the least, however I haven't been able to fully shake the hold she has on me.

I always felt like I was probably completely alone in feeling something like this for someone I'll never meet, but I guess not. I always found it embarrassing too, like it's only the kind of thing maybe a teenage girl would experience. I wonder if it's ever made me a little blasé towards real women I've been with. But either way OP, you're definitely not alone.

You are definitely not alone. A lot of people are obsessed with complete strangers.
 
Maravillosa

Maravillosa

Mistress of all she surveys
Sep 7, 2018
638
I tend to become obsessed with dead historical figures (especially those who have ctb): I often attempt to resolve my obsession by writing fiction about them. However, starting when I was five years old (this would have been in the early 1970s), I was obsessed with a TV anchorman (who died several years ago):

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Garrick_Utley
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/22/...-74.html?login=smartlock&auth=login-smartlock

My mother has told me that I had a huge crush on Garrick Utley. It is admittedly strange for a young child to fixate on a television journalist, but I was a strange child. I remember that I still had a mild crush on Utley when I was in high school in the early 1980s: I sent him a collection of presidential campaign buttons. I suspect that I was so intrigued by Utley because he was intelligent and debonair -- not like my father (who was intelligent, but far from debonair) or other boys or men whom I knew. Besides, I find men with lantern jaws attractive :wink:
 
azucaramargo

azucaramargo

Enlightened
Sep 16, 2018
1,010
I tend to become obsessed with dead historical figures (especially those who have ctb): I often attempt to resolve my obsession by writing fiction about them. However, starting when I was five years old (this would have been in the early 1970s), I was obsessed with a TV anchorman (who died several years ago):

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Garrick_Utley
https://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/22/...-74.html?login=smartlock&auth=login-smartlock

My mother has told me that I had a huge crush on Garrick Utley. It is admittedly strange for a young child to fixate on a television journalist, but I was a strange child. I remember that I still had a mild crush on Utley when I was in high school in the early 1980s: I sent him a collection of presidential campaign buttons. I suspect that I was so intrigued by Utley because he was intelligent and debonair -- not like my father (who was intelligent, but far from debonair) or other boys or men whom I knew. Besides, I find men with lantern jaws attractive :wink:
That is really cool, Maravillosa. Did you send the campaign buttons to the TV studio that aired his show?
 
azucaramargo

azucaramargo

Enlightened
Sep 16, 2018
1,010
Yes, I did send the campaign buttons to NBC Studios. He wrote a very nice letter in reply with a signed photo.
That is so cool! Didn't that feel like success? Didn't you feel proud? When my celeb (or his assistant) responded to my e-mail it was just the most success I had experienced in a long time. I tried something, put myself out there, and I got results. That's part of the feeling that fuels my obsession. I hope I can move on and be healthy.
 
Maravillosa

Maravillosa

Mistress of all she surveys
Sep 7, 2018
638
That is so cool! Didn't that feel like success? Didn't you feel proud? When my celeb (or his assistant) responded to my e-mail it was just the most success I had experienced in a long time. I tried something, put myself out there, and I got results. That's part of the feeling that fuels my obsession. I hope I can move on and be healthy.

I did feel a little bit proud, @azucaramargo -- thanks for reminding me. It was sooo long ago, though.