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  • Gay

    Votes: 5 9.3%
  • Bi

    Votes: 16 29.6%
  • Transgender

    Votes: 11 20.4%
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    Votes: 8 14.8%
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Sep 29, 2020
nightnightnitrite said:
I think being asexual is definitely a thing but being pan sexual, not so much. I think pansexual is another way to say bisexual. The oxford dictionary definition for pansexual is "not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity" and I think that definition means a more "open/woke" bi person. I think my reasoning comes from me believing whatever you present as and feel you are is what you are no matter what you were anatomically born with and if a person likes boys and girls that should include everybody regardless of gender identity or what they were born with at birth. I get defensive over transgender people and I think making pansexual separate from bisexual is acknowledging they aren't a 'complete/correct' boy or girl. I am a cis straight female so I might be in the wrong but I know some of my transgender friends feel like they will never looked at as the same as a natural born male or female and this just helps that narrative. If anybody has any other thought or opinion on this I'd love to hear it!
Yeah, I agree with you It's quite rude to describe yourself as pansexual if you're attract to a transgender person, for me a Ftm is a man and a MtF is a woman and that's it, I don't care about the genitalia x) But I prefer to describe myself more as Pan than Bi because I can be attract to a nonbinary person and I guess that's not the case for a bisexual ?
western_heart said:
I like pansexual as a label. I consider myself pansexual because I like the colors (sarcasm)
It's more precise than bisexual IMO, does a better job of including my attraction to nonbinary people.

that's what some trans people are going for, though

Relatable, have you looked into concepts like demisexual and grey asexual?
I'm not a big fan of increasingly specific labels, but this definitely is a thing
Ooooh I didn't remember demisexual was a thing but I guess that would be me x)
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A Fatal Mistake
Jan 14, 2021
I'm bisexual, basically straight but I also like femboy and transgender. I have no experience anyway, at 29 I am a virgin.


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Jun 5, 2021
Grave said:
Yup, I'm a trans guy and it fucking sucks, NHS waiting lists for gender services in the UK are 26 years - what a pisstake.
ya i feel you, my OCD has made it impossible to transition i feel like a fucking faliure
Weary Soul

Weary Soul

Soon I will be free
Nov 13, 2019
I am just another human and do not feel I have a right to judge anyone; not only that, but I cannot fathom judging anyone because I believe that through diversity, we as a species inhabiting this earth evolve.

If anything, at this point I am about 90% asexual by choice, and while born with ovaries and a uterus, I have qualities that are stereotypically considered male (I excelled at "male" sports and was very physically strong when I was younger even though I was pretty tiny). I also have qualities that are stereotypically defined as female, not to mention qualities that have not yet been defined, except to say they are different than what is "expected."

I will be the first to admit that I have no clue when I hear about all of the different categories that people use to define themselves - but that is probably because of my age.

I dunno - intolerance of differences strikes me as painfully trying to force someone or a group of someones into a another's mold - and who is to say that person's mold is right?

I just say leave people be to live in peace with who they are. There is already too much wrong with this world - murder, kidnapping, rape, assaults, verbal abuse, CA, CSA, etc... Why attack people who are harmlessly different? Makes no sense to me.

I hope this did not sound like intolerance - I never really understood negative judgements like this.

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Memento mori
Oct 1, 2019
Sexuality-wise, I identify as pansexual. I see bisexuality as being attracted to 2 or more genders, but pansexuality as being attracted to the individual regardless of gender. There is crossover, but i think that it's just a label and you can chose what works for you personally.

Gender-wise, Im AFAB and currently identify as nonbinary. I came out when I was 15 but my family refused to accept it and it forced me to bottle it up. Only a handful of people have accepted me as NB. Deep down I know that I'm a trans man, but I could never transition. The way my family reacted to me just wanting to use neutral pronouns was bad enough, me changing everything about myself would cause hell. I have severe dysphoria but none of the surgical options available right now would help with that, and because I'm femme presenting right now I doubt I'd be taken seriously. Plus with the way the government in the UK is slowly stripping away trans rights and putting in protections for people who are "Gender Critical", I don't think I would want to come out anyway..

I admire those who are brave enough to be themselves despite what others say. I hope one day I'll have your strength


Apr 19, 2021
LeMhur said:
I feel like I'm pan but at the same time asexual, I don't even know if it's a thing tho XD
Panromantic asexual?
nightnightnitrite said:
Thats interesting. I just haven't met any trans people who want to be regarded as something a lil different than born at birth male or female. I always felt there were "two genders" despite what one might have been born with and are presenting as now. I guess it is slightly harmful to not recognize they are different than born at birth genders, I just never thought of it that way. Thanks for your input<3
Have you heard about nonbinary people? They are exactly what you describe, people who don’t feel male or female, something a little different or sometimes a lot different
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