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atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
Cptsd has completely and possibly irreversibly destroyed my viewpoint on sex.

I am completely unable to talk about sex directly one on one with anyone…never able to ask for it any relationship Ive been in…if it’s talked about by someone else I avoid or reroute the topic.

I can only masturbate to porn which helps regulate my high libido and chronic prostatitis. When Ive been in relationships or more commonly known as “a thing” because no ones ever wanted to be my actual partner…I am unable to orgasm or even maintain erection with porn without incredible difficulty because I become only attracted to the girl I admire…which means intense pain and suffering to the point where I am upset and falling apart, shaking, tremmoring…and girls cant handle that and leave.

Has anyone had this problem and solutions? What I mean is to be able to reach orgasm with the porn as there is no other alternative to the heart of the problem?
 
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cobain

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Sep 12, 2021
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have you tried nofap, I think it migth help.
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
have you tried nofap, I think it migth help.
I have chronic prostatitis. This isn’t a psychological problem it’s a physical one. I can’t not masturbate, I have to or my prostate will enflame and enlarge and I will be in intense pain. The doctor said I have to either relieve it physically and there is no real other option than going on medication that will destroy the sex drive. I was just wondering what solutions people had that I may not be aware of.
 
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fox_wannabe

fox_wannabe

Elementalist
Jul 7, 2021
880
I do erotic roleplay, I mean you pretend you are character and have sex the way you like. There are roleplay discord servers where you can have long term partners. IDK if it would interest you. I do often roleplay as furry >~<
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
The servers would sound interesting I guess…except for the fact that I could never talk to someone directly or even do anything like that with someone else. The thought of it really hurts and brings me to a near anxiety attack.
 
fox_wannabe

fox_wannabe

Elementalist
Jul 7, 2021
880
The servers would sound interesting I guess…except for the fact that I could never talk to someone directly or even do anything like that with someone else. The thought of it really hurts and brings me to a near anxiety attack.
No no no, no talking, just texting. Most of people there do not want to talk via voice and are also kind off reserved. It usually works best when you do not see or hear the person on other side. no offense hahaha
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
texting and talking are the same think…I think I’m being misunderstood. Communicating at all.
That’s kinda besides the point anyway. I’d never ever do that nor I am interested in it…. it’s like the complete opposite of what I’m asking for.
 
fox_wannabe

fox_wannabe

Elementalist
Jul 7, 2021
880
texting and talking are the same think…I think I’m being misunderstood. Communicating at all.
That’s kinda besides the point anyway. I’d never ever do that nor I am interested in it…. it’s like the complete opposite of what I’m asking for.
I am sorry, I cannot help you. Maybe you need more of a friend than lover? But no sex would be involved.
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
It’s alright and no, I’m not allowed to have friends (therapists/doctors) on account of it makes me really unstable.
 
oliviahurts

oliviahurts

genius with a needle
Sep 13, 2021
68
Hi Atari, I've had problems with a high libido since I was sexually assaulted (when I was still a boy). I struggled with it for many years, but what eventually worked for me was buying libido lowering medication online. I know you said that you didn't want that but I think there's medication that can lower libido without killing it completely.

(I took spiractonolone but I don't reccommend it because of it's other side effects).
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
Thanks @oliviahurts , I’ll look into that. I guess I don’t know what I’m looking for if not medication. Some kinda miracle. I hate that the options are: CTB, Meds…??? nothing. That’s it. Why can‘t it be easier?
 
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sick.faery

sick.faery

Mar 18, 2021
61
kinda confused about what you're asking, like you said you can orgasm with porn but they you say you can't?

anyways like if your problem is that you can't enjoy sex in person, and can only get off alone, that i totally get it's the same for me (also have ptsd).
if the thing is that though, i don't think you got any other option than either doing it drunk (it helps a bit. pers can slightly enjoy it at times like that) or maybe on drugs? idk. or go to therapy/take meds for ptsd. that seems to be really the only options.
if your problem is that you can't really ever orgasm or enjoy anything that much irl & alone, same thing

getting help is probs what you should do though, would also help your masturbation disorder thing, since it will make it less horrible.
but tbh if that that much of a problem though, you might want to just get on libido killing meds. cos in the end of the day, jerking yourself off and sex isn't that important esp if it ruins your life. and i mean you can always come off of them
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
kinda confused about what you're asking, like you said you can orgasm with porn but they you say you can't?

anyways like if your problem is that you can't enjoy sex in person, and can only get off alone, that i totally get it's the same for me (also have ptsd).
if the thing is that though, i don't think you got any other option than either doing it drunk (it helps a bit. pers can slightly enjoy it at times like that) or maybe on drugs? idk. or go to therapy/take meds for ptsd. that seems to be really the only options.
if your problem is that you can't really ever orgasm or enjoy anything that much irl & alone, same thing

getting help is probs what you should do though, would also help your masturbation disorder thing, since it will make it less horrible.
but tbh if that that much of a problem though, you might want to just get on libido killing meds. cos in the end of the day, jerking yourself off and sex isn't that important esp if it ruins your life. and i mean you can always come off of them
I said I can orgasm with porn outside of a relationship. Ive never had sex nor I have ever been in any kind of sexual relationship. Make sense now? When Im spending time with someone, virtually for example and we are attracted to each other…porn no longer can make me orgasm. I can only think the girl Im attracted to.

Therapy and meds were deemed no longer necessary.

The drunk thing sounds interesting…maybe it would help?

i dont have a masturbation disorder lol…I have chronic prostatitis. My prostate is regularly enlarged and if I dont masturbate/orgasm daily (sometimes two to three times) then the prostate will become enflamed :/

I did used to be a porn addict and had recovered when, chronic prostatis was diagnosed and the doctor said it wasnt healthy to forgo masturbation :/ and said I should continue masturbating to keep it healthy.

So what Im asking is if there is a solution to reaching orgasm without porn or if with porn, while being attracted or in a relationship?
 
Angst Filled Fuck Up

Angst Filled Fuck Up

Super duper enlightened
Sep 9, 2018
1,704
I'm sure there are foods or supplements that can alleviate the prostatitis at least somewhat. Just off the top of my head avoiding meat and eating cranberries or something may help. Maybe that way the whole thing can be less about sex and more about healing your body, which is a good thing to focus on.
 
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atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
I'm sure there are foods or supplements that can alleviate the prostatitis at least somewhat. Just off the top of my head avoiding meat and eating cranberries or something may help. Maybe that way the whole thing can be less about sex and more about healing your body, which is a good thing to focus on.
Thank you that’s very helpful. Im vegan so i have that covered, ill try cranberries!
 
sick.faery

sick.faery

Mar 18, 2021
61
I said I can orgasm with porn outside of a relationship. Ive never had sex nor I have ever been in any kind of sexual relationship. Make sense now? When Im spending time with someone, virtually for example and we are attracted to each other…porn no longer can make me orgasm. I can only think the girl Im attracted to.

Therapy and meds were deemed no longer necessary.

The drunk thing sounds interesting…maybe it would help?

i dont have a masturbation disorder lol…I have chronic prostatitis. My prostate is regularly enlarged and if I dont masturbate/orgasm daily (sometimes two to three times) then the prostate will become enflamed :/

I did used to be a porn addict and had recovered when, chronic prostatis was diagnosed and the doctor said it wasnt healthy to forgo masturbation :/ and said I should continue masturbating to keep it healthy.

So what Im asking is if there is a solution to reaching orgasm without porn or if with porn, while being attracted or in a relationship?

ohh ok
i think you could try to maybe figure out why you can't do it when you like someone, and when you figure that out try to reprogram yourself to be able to get off to porn?
 
atari

atari

The Very Best
Jun 30, 2019
473
ohh ok
i think you could try to maybe figure out why you can't do it when you like someone, and when you figure that out try to reprogram yourself to be able to get off to porn?
Because everyone says sex is perverted and inappropriate. Which i know it is i wouldnt ever ask or able to ask that of anyone dont worry. Im just trying…the only solution is the meds isnt it. Ill try the cranberries…maybe drinking but. Sounds like Im totally done for. Thanks everyone for trying :)
 
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DobryDen

Member
Jul 12, 2021
17
Cptsd has completely and possibly irreversibly destroyed my viewpoint on sex.

I am completely unable to talk about sex directly one on one with anyone…never able to ask for it any relationship Ive been in…if it’s talked about by someone else I avoid or reroute the topic.

I can only masturbate to porn which helps regulate my high libido and chronic prostatitis. When Ive been in relationships or more commonly known as “a thing” because no ones ever wanted to be my actual partner…I am unable to orgasm or even maintain erection with porn without incredible difficulty because I become only attracted to the girl I admire…which means intense pain and suffering to the point where I am upset and falling apart, shaking, tremmoring…and girls cant handle that and leave.

Has anyone had this problem and solutions? What I mean is to be able to reach orgasm with the porn as there is no other alternative to the heart of the problem?
You're describing me too...
 
Dragon's Heart

Dragon's Heart

Well, that didnt go as planned.
Dec 14, 2021
74
If you're taking antidepressants, they have a tendency to remove orgasm from the options list. Just thought I'd mention it in case it might be having an effect on you.
 
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