oneess

oneess

Die in my sleep
May 5, 2019
46
Everytime I had a romantic relationship and an SO, it was a codependent relationship.

So I can't say I know what love is, or if I ever felt it, but I can say, 100%, I had a special feeling, maybe it's love.
 
Lydia

Lydia

Member
Oct 27, 2018
22
I believe you can love many people in different ways.
Friendship love, for example, can be very significant, I think you can love and care for a lot of people.

But being in love with someone romantically, at this current point in my life I'm not sure if I believe in it.
 
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Iwantoutrightnow

Experienced
Jun 27, 2019
274
I believe I was in love with my ex and I believe that he loved me. He looked at me in a way nobody else ever has. when he held my hand I felt warm inside and safe and home.

But depression and ptsd still managed to grip me and was a wedge between us that was too much for him. I haven't loved anyone since and I don't believe it's possible for me again.

I loved my dogs too and I believe they loved me. People say that animals don't feel like humans but I disagree.
 
Simba

Simba

Missunderstood Potato
Dec 9, 2018
285
I guess i don't really bealive in love anymore ,even tho i get butterflies in my stomach for people i like ,it don't matter no more ,not like people gonna ever like me in any way :/ i usetoo have a boyfriend when i was in 12th grade ,he was my first and it ended up being horrible.. he was extremely mean towards me even tho he's special needs too ,he made up weird rules saying that if i spoke to a guy for more than 10 minutes then it's considered cheating he would cuss me and so on - he made me feel not a part of anything during the holidays since it's for Jewish and i guess im not . He kept calling me his Christian girlfriend when really i actually HAD NO religion and that's what i was thought that if i ever wanna convert to whatever then im more than welcome. Him and my daddy never got along well at all. I was left there in the middle while my ex is on the phone to me and my daddy shouting at him while i have the phone and my ex was like "what did he say what did he say ??" And school was no better either so my mental health went even more down.. from a quite person to really depressed and suicidal, that year was the worst.. that's when i was drawn in to killing myself ,i would try to choke myself with a bicycle helmet to putting bags on my head.. alot of times, i was also trying to cut myself with a plastic knife or a ruler ,first time was caught by my mammy an she said you stupid girl while i was left crying.. the next year i guess wasn't too bad.. my ex was gone and i had a really good friend from my class (we were only 5 ,and i was the only girl ) but eventually they took him away from me ,telling him and i quote "they said that if you keep being like that (i.e. depressed and whatever ) than i can't be around you" like are you for real ??? And not just that there's more but im not gonna write everything . Moving on the year after ,first year of my national service - the year where i really started to self harm real bad but not bad that i gotta go hospital ,mammy ended up finding out.. it was all over my thighs.. she was in shock. Later that day she asked me if i was doing it for attention.. it wasn't for attention at all :( but i think she eventually came around to understanding a bit more and such. The year after was my second year - that year i tried to ctb with pills and i do have to say that it was from that suicide faq that i got from ashes and so on. Failed anyway , panicked. I don't know why. It feels to me that everytime i like someone and they like me but not in that way i feel like i just break down eventually knowing that the person is going to leave. So yes ,I've lost hope in humanity too. I can't see why i should stay if all im going to do is waste people's valuable time :( and sorry for my long reply it oks if you don't want to read it too
 
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Life sucks

Enlightened
Apr 18, 2018
1,860
I believe in love as something that makes happiness by getting brain chemicals. I don't believe in the love nonsense that leads to reproduction. (e.g. I love that person, and I get better with them, not I love that person and want to reproduce with them)
 
a.n.kirillov

a.n.kirillov

velle non discitur
Nov 17, 2019
1,831
Sure, I believe that many cultures have felt the need to come up with a concept called 'love' for a cluster of feelings, attitudes, behaviours and so on. Some, like ours, have only one word for different types of the same general cluster, some have several different words.

The feeling of love (at least of other human beings) can be explained as an evolved motivating mechanism that makes you take care of (invest energy and ressources into) other humans who are useful to your continued survival and/ or reproduction; or rather, to be precise, it is how this motivation feels.
 
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Una

Una

Write something, even if it’s just a suicide note.
Feb 28, 2020
87
“To love is good, too: love being difficult. For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”
( Rainer Maria Rilke )
 
Zoya

Zoya

Emotional pain is stronger than physical pain.
May 30, 2020
49
i do think that love is real but only attractive people actually get to experience it, hence why it cannot be mine.
You know I think it belongs to those who know how to see the inner beauty
 
GoBack

GoBack

Paragon
Apr 25, 2020
997
i do think that love is real but only attractive people actually get to experience it, hence why it cannot be mine.



This isn’t true and makes me sad to see it. True love is in your soul for another’s soul, whatever is on the outside
 
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Deleted member 17331

The swan sang with a broken neck
Apr 21, 2020
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"Well, love is really just a drug to ease the fear and uneasiness of loneliness. But that fear will be waiting for you once the drug wears off. In the end, there's really no difference from living alone."

Yuichi Onodera.
 
Fumito

Fumito

egoworld
May 1, 2020
538
This isn’t true and makes me sad to see it. True love is in your soul for another’s soul, whatever is on the outside
if you aren't good looking no one is gonna give a fuck about who you are on the inside, (especially if you're a guy). first you have to be goodlooking, then maybe someone will appreciate your soul. but if you aren't goodlooking no one will care about your soul, just the facts.
 
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Cosmiq

Cosmiq

Student
May 7, 2020
198
Yes, I don't think I could experience romantic love. But I believe in it for others, I've avoided relationships so my view of it wouldn't become bitter because of failed relationships.
I strongly believe my best friend and I love each other. Like if there was a platonic marriage for friends we'd have it. When it comes to family, I'm not so sure whether it's truly love or just attachment, control, and the fact that we're condition to keep giving them chances even if they hurt us the worse.
 
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LastFlowers

LastFlowers

the haru that can read
Apr 27, 2019
1,324
It depends how it is defined. I suppose not in the common sense. I think there are a lot of other things connected to “love” that are easier to believe in, besides “love” itself.
 
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AnxietyAttack44

I just wanna go to my husband already.
Jun 5, 2020
1,096
I found that one true love. Its beautiful and painfull. Also reason why i want to die.

My husband cared for me in nicest possible way. Never lied cheated or hurt me in any way. I was suicidal when we met and he patched me up, never made me feel bad about my thoughts,never forced doctors or pills, hed just hug me and tell me he will help me get through it, and he did successfully every time. He was always with me never separated and i loved it.
This april he passed away from nasty infection caused heart attacks. 3 days before it he wanted us to double suicide because he didnt want to leave me alone in here and instead of accepting i wanted us to live, ironically. I didnt know it was this bad.

There can be true and beautiful real love. We had it. Its usually very short lasting tho with nobody to testify about it.
 
mathieu

mathieu

Enlightened
Jun 5, 2019
1,093
Yeah, I love my family and my dog. As for romantic love it seems I'm always feeling unrequited love and those that love me I don't love.
 
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