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Do you give hints indirectly to people what you going to ctb?

  • yes

    Votes: 34 53.1%
  • no

    Votes: 30 46.9%

  • Total voters
    64
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millefeui

-
Mar 31, 2018
1,036
Not sure if I get the question, but it is not a secret to anyone who knows me that I am suicidal. I don't really hide it. No reason to. They can't put me in a mental hospital where I live anyways.

If you mean hints towards how I will ctb, nah. No way.
 
Sayo

Sayo

Not 2B
Aug 22, 2018
520
No. I have openly discussed it before. I don't give hints as I don't want anyone to look back and think it is their fault because they missed some kind of oblique signal. I don't believe this is the kind of thing that indirect communication is useful for (edit: in most situations, I can imagine some desperate situations where direct communication might not be possible...?). If I wanted someone to pick up on it without my saying it, that would be indicative to me that I might want to be rescued, or seek a caring gesture from others (nothing wrong with that, but I would then pick a better way). Not something to play games with, imo.

My suicidality is extremely obvious and that's because I'm not very functional. But I don't engage in hint-giving.
 
S

Seneca

Student
Jun 30, 2018
176
Occasionally the topic comes up and I can't help but show that I am well informed about suicide methods and their likelihood of success etc. Its hard to keep my mouth shut when people start expressing their views that suicide is a simple matter of overdosing on sleeping pills or cutting your wrists etc, or that in general it is easy to voluntarily die if the desire strikes.

So yeah if anyone is paying attention it will seem likely I have researched the topic, and combined with my avowed inclination towards pessimism and antinatalism it's probably easy to guess that my attitude to living is complicated. Of course many people who know me know I have been hospitalised for suicidal ideation anyway.
 
MEoDP

MEoDP

Specialist
Sep 2, 2018
347
Occasionally the topic comes up and I can't help but show that I am well informed about suicide methods and their likelihood of success etc. Its hard to keep my mouth shut when people start expressing their views that suicide is a simple matter of overdosing on sleeping pills or cutting your wrists etc, or that in general it is easy to voluntarily die if the desire strikes.

So yeah if anyone is paying attention it will seem likely I have researched the topic, and combined with my avowed inclination towards pessimism and antinatalism it's probably easy to guess that my attitude to living is complicated. Of course many people who know me know I have been hospitalised for suicidal ideation anyway.
Yeah. I've had an aunt attempt such a misinformed method(overdosing on a variety of random pills)and it only resulted in hospitalization and unnecessary suffering. (I do wonder what would have happened had nobody encountered her,she probably would have died but very,very painfully)

I think the pill method would only work with Opiates. (Like Oxycodone) the real issue is getting your hands on it. I envy those who know how to get them without a prescription.

Edit: Oh...and great to meet a fellow Antinatalist. :)
 
Tragoedia Vitae

Tragoedia Vitae

Experienced
Oct 14, 2018
224
Not really, no. The most I have said is something like, "I'm not sure if I'll be able to do that next year," or "I'm not sure if I'll be at [location] next year because you never know what might happen." I try not to drop any hints or clues as to my intentions because I'm too afraid that people would just make things even worse if they found out, either by downplaying the seriousness of the situation or going nuclear on me. Or they could just attribute my suicidiality to me and me alone without recognizing other contributing factors, and expect me to magically fix everything. That would make my burden even more crushing.

But sometimes I do wish that I could freely proclaim that I am definitely going to commit suicide----then people would know that I'm all but finished, and treat me like I'm a terminally ill person. Maybe then they would actually focus on providing palliative and other end-of-life care, which would do much to help alleviate the difficult transition from life to death. Oh well, I can always dream...
 
Dog Food

Dog Food

POS
Mar 27, 2018
143
I give hints. I think part of me still wants to get rescued, even as it's been a steadily downward spiral since I was 8. Also, being hospitalized multiple times for attempts and anorexia/bulimia only makes everything worse, so I have no good reason.
 
RM5998

RM5998

Sack of Meat
Sep 3, 2018
2,206
Apart from an increased disaffection with academics (which even I would have thought was impossible), discussing the viability of various suicide methods in detail and zero concern for the future, nothing. And I'm eccentric enough for this to pass as a trivial part of my idiosyncrasies.

Note: None of this is for the purpose of hint-dropping. Rather, I'm trying to gauge what the people around me could construe as a hint. All of this is a consequence of my decision to CTB, and not for other people to see. It's more of me listing behaviour that could get me caught that I refuse to stop.
 
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No Future

No Future

No One
Aug 6, 2018
96
No, I don't.

It's unfair to negatively implicate or scare people based on a decision you're making. It's unfair to encourage people to feel responsible for the security of a life you've opted to willingly endanger. Manipulative and cruel, especially to bestow that on the people you love; the people that care about you.

Circumstances will vary, but whether you're actually going to do it or not, hint dropping is harmful, attention seeking behavior that I loathe. I would never willingly attempt to envelop people in misery for the sake of being mysterious or other miserable power fantasies.

If you need help: seek it. Don't beat around the bush. Don't expect someone else to snap you out of it. If you're going to do it: minimize the agony for those you leave behind, and stop the immature mind games.

This is on you, and if it isn't, you're doing it for entirely the wrong reasons.
 
Help_Me

Help_Me

Gene pool mistake
Oct 21, 2018
546
Yea, but only few friends know about my direct intentions. My mother knows that my destiny is pretty grim and I told her I'll end up my life one day. As for others : mist of my friends know I'm depressed. My colleagues at work know nothing, of course. Especially the fact I'm visiting suicidal forum and typing this text right know on my phone)
 
Fcancer

Fcancer

Student
Sep 24, 2018
184
No, I don't.

It's unfair to negatively implicate or scare people based on a decision you're making. It's unfair to encourage people to feel responsible for the security of a life you've opted to willingly endanger. Manipulative and cruel, especially to bestow that on the people you love; the people that care about you.

Circumstances will vary, but whether you're actually going to do it or not, hint dropping is harmful, attention seeking behavior that I loathe. I would never willingly attempt to envelop people in misery for the sake of being mysterious or other miserable power fantasies.

If you need help: seek it. Don't beat around the bush. Don't expect someone else to snap you out of it. If you're going to do it: minimize the agony for those you leave behind, and stop the immature mind games.

This is on you, and if it isn't, you're doing it for entirely the wrong reasons.
100% agree with this, although I only have good people in my life and I am not childish so would never even drop the slightest hint for those reasons anyway. Hell I don't even want to do it for the people it will hurt, but it is what is is due to my situation, and I personally am not afraid of death after cancer twice.
 
sadak_the_wanderer

sadak_the_wanderer

An appropriate painting
Mar 19, 2018
243
Certainly not. I don't want anyone to stop me. I'm no Richard Cory in that nobody envies me, but I think the surprise factor would do something to alleviate the "he gave these hints, I should have acted" guilt that some might feel.
 
Escargot Shorts

Escargot Shorts

Tears-of-a-Clown Ass Bitch
Sep 26, 2018
184
i'd hate to do it indirectly. i think i've referenced urges to die but always in ways that seem funny in a reactionary way to something frivolous. i might have mentioned that i don't fathom living past a certain age. i've mentioned that i don't care to live for a long time. i don't know. it feels like a thing that doesn't come up organically so i don't talk about it much. but if i did hints or stuff like that, it'd be like, 'why am i doing that?' like if i have hesitance or something, that's one thing to communicate, but to be so vague about it seems like it'd be unfulfilling. hm
 
longingforrelease

longingforrelease

Specialist
Oct 27, 2018
381
Not really. But I've said a few things on facebook lately that if someone closely considered my words might lead them to conclude that I'm in crisis and seriously considering ctb. Not overt, though.
 
littlelungs

littlelungs

Arcanist
Oct 21, 2018
495
I've given enough hints in the past that eventually taught me to keep my mouth shut.

Now here I am, making pretend-plans for Christmas and talking about how stoked I am to see the Backstreet Boys in concert next July, knowing damn well I won't be around for either of those things.