Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

Defective since birth
Jul 1, 2020
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Parents and people in general are still awful, for lots of people.
(assuming your comment is from my first sentence)
I agree a lot of people cause other people problems, but I don't believe ALL parents/people are evil.
I'm sorry for your situation
And thanks... Being legally told getting help isn't a good idea kinda sucks
 
Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

Defective since birth
Jul 1, 2020
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Fucking people!!!!
"I can't go to therapy for 10yrs or it will cause my brothers problems" this isn't exactly a fucking option.
And you.... WHAT THE FUCK!!!!???? When you love someone you help them through hard times not leave them to deal with the mudslide on top of them alone.
Plus do you even fucking listen to me? "just being my coping mechanism"? FUCK YOU! You make it sound like I don't give a shit and I'm just using you. I love you, you aren't just a fucking coping mechanism. And I told you, even fucking proved to you, that you've been helping me but "you can't fix me".
Just fuck off somewhere
 
onlyanimalsaregood

onlyanimalsaregood

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Mar 11, 2022
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Fucking people!!!!
"I can't go to therapy for 10yrs or it will cause my brothers problems" this isn't exactly a fucking option.
And you.... WHAT THE FUCK!!!!???? When you love someone you help them through hard times not leave them to deal with the mudslide on top of them alone.
Plus do you even fucking listen to me? "just being my coping mechanism"? FUCK YOU! You make it sound like I don't give a shit and I'm just using you. I love you, you aren't just a fucking coping mechanism. And I told you, even fucking proved to you, that you've been helping me but "you can't fix me".
Just fuck off somewhere
I'm sorry for your suffering. I really don't think it's fair that our parents sucked and now we are the ones who have to deal with these childhood traumas. So fuck them
 
Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

Defective since birth
Jul 1, 2020
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I'm sorry for your suffering. I really don't think it's fair that our parents sucked and now we are the ones who have to deal with these childhood traumas. So fuck them
Actually in the post you quoted I was talking about my "SO". I can't go to therapy because my parents abused me and my brothers still live there. I don't want to have the government in their lives, I don't feel it necessary. To avoid this I can't go to therapy until they're adults or else my therapist will have to rep port it and they'll take my brothers. I told my "SO" that I can't go to therapy and he fucking blocked me. He said it was him and not me but.... Really dude.... I couldn't be any lower unless something happened to my grampy, brothers or cats (please tell me I didn't just jinx myself.... I will kms rfn)
 
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onlyanimalsaregood

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Mar 11, 2022
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Actually in the post you quoted I was talking about my "SO". I can't go to therapy because my parents abused me and my brothers still live there. I don't want to have the government in their lives, I don't feel it necessary. To avoid this I can't go to therapy until they're adults or else my therapist will have to rep port it and they'll take my brothers. I told my "SO" that I can't go to therapy and he fucking blocked me. He said it was him and not me but.... Really dude.... I couldn't be any lower unless something happened to my grampy, brothers or cats (please tell me I didn't just jinx myself.... I will kms rfn)
Oh ok. I understand your dilemma. I also when I was younger had to wait until I turned 18 to finally have peace in my life. I respect your reasons. I hope you can put up with it for a while longer.
 
Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

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Jul 1, 2020
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What do you mean? What laws prevent you from getting help?
The confidentiality laws the therapist has to follow. If I talk about all of the abuse I went through (and the few things my brother was involved in) my therapist will HAVE to report it.
Oh ok. I understand your dilemma. I also when I was younger had to wait until I turned 18 to finally have peace in my life. I respect your reasons. I hope you can put up with it for a while longer.
Not really.... Im trying to not grab my rope and walk out the door rn..
 
hopelessandhomeless

hopelessandhomeless

life and its opposite
Mar 1, 2022
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i’m sorry for your situation, it really sucks, because i’m in the same situation too. but it went further than not being able to go to therapy, i wasn’t even allowed to go to college in another city because “the government would be suspicious of you leaving our household”.
 
Life_and_Death

Life_and_Death

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Jul 1, 2020
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i’m sorry for your situation, it really sucks, because i’m in the same situation too. but it went further than not being able to go to therapy, i wasn’t even allowed to go to college in another city because “the government would be suspicious of you leaving our household”.
I can't go to college because I basically got kicked out of school for being abused. Same boat, different reasons lol
 
unredeemable

unredeemable

To be, or not to be - that is the question.
Jun 7, 2022
55
Is it really better to bear the responsibility for whether or not your brother stays in an abusive environment? You caused none of it, but are making it an impediment to your own development and growth. Living for yourself and letting go of the expectations of others is the first step to personal fulfillment.

I don't know all the details, but it sounds pretty hellish. Martyrdom is lonely ass feeling, but maybe it's not the only option.
 
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unredeemable

unredeemable

To be, or not to be - that is the question.
Jun 7, 2022
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My brothers ARE NOT in an abusive household. That's why I want to avoid the government being the government
You said above your brother was involved in some of it, but whatever the case you're basing your decision to not get therapy, at least in part, to protect people from the consequences of their own actions, and to protect those you love from what you consider to be needless suffering.

Meanwhile your suffering is happening right now, and is just as needless. Who will stand up and protect you? It sounds like in this case it will have to be you.

Sorry for my assumption above. Did not mean to offend. Just a misunderstanding.
 
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