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how would i even recover as a 34yr old virgin neet hikikomori?

  • Its hopeless at this point, just stay hikihomori

    Votes: 18 40.9%
  • Make stuff up and convince girls Im normal

    Votes: 26 59.1%

  • Total voters
    44
KadathianStr1d3r

KadathianStr1d3r

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snowman626 said:
basically im a walking failure. 34yr old, virgin, never had a gf, been a neet for a year, near hikikomori for most my life so zero social skills, never went to college, no money, living with parents, and cannot carry a conversation.

also i have nothing to offer as far as physical looks go. i am only 5'5'', i have small bones and my hands and arms are the same size or smaller as a girl my age, small penis (4''), and already balding at about a norwood 4. as far as my face its okay i guess, its the only part of me that isn't that sub par.

but suppose i want to try and get a girlfriend, the only possible way i can think of is to make things up and pretend i have money, i have a job, i have had girlfriends before, etc. if successful i could start dating a girl who thinks im normal. as far as social skills and carrying a conversation i think i can fake that too for a little while if i rehearse some stuff.

let me know what you think in the polls
Yoooooooooo!
Dude like take a risk man and get a loan or something to get out of your parents place.

Go to a place with a lot of trade jobs or even factory, move out of the state if you have to. Live minimalist until you have a certified stream of a livable income.
Go to the gym, get a trainer and NEVER STOP GOING! Seriously even if you lift some for a few minutes and get tired it's okay to leave to get some rest so long as you don't quit going. Do this on repeat while challenging yourself and you'll notice results off the back. This is to build true confidence and from that confidence can you theoretically feel like conquering the whole dawn world.

Dude I want you to succeed and become the most beautiful bastard you can carve yourself into.

Girlfriends are secondary to getting questioned by life and answering with your life.
Nobody can make risks for you and only you can realize the full uniquely human potential that lies in you!

You can do this bro!
 
GenesAndEnvironment

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Non-negotiable:

1. Higher than abysmal confidence levels.
2. A social life. The most important on the list if dating apps are not working.
3. Relatively acceptable general appearance or better (just nothing completely bonkers and it should be fine).
4. Some way of spending as much time together as is needed. Usually this means cohabitation, which may or may not imply rent-paying and salary-gathering.


Recommended:

1. High confidence levels.
2. High social status.
3. Good physical appearance.
4. Good finances.


Optional:

1. Legitimate cause for confidence.
2. Genuine desire for a mutually beneficial long-term relationship.
 
brutalus

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there was a thread recently that asked: what is the worth of a human?

- money
- possesions
- knowledge
- looks
- social skills
- other skills
- noble character
- intelligence
- physical power
- others i dont remember

its not that you absolutely need any of these, but they add up to make your overall worth, i think.

a key point is that the dynamic changes depending on the worth difference between you and the woman you are trying to seduce. if the woman has a lot more worth than you, you are going to have to work a lot, and vice versa.

in my personal experience I have always lied to women in order to get them to like me. the first thing i lie about is pretending i care about life.

now it is true that women detest lack of confidence, and can smell it from a mile away. so thats another point where you are going to have to lie like a lawyer. i usually got drunk before or during dates to help with this.

i believe its mostly women telling you not to lie to them, hahaha.

another necessary lie, was that i had to pretend to be interested in what they said, instead of being mad with desire for sex. you cannot tell a woman: lets fuck and then i will pay attention to you.

i imagine you dont dress up, bathe and brush your teeth regularly. but you are going to have to pretend that you do. i think the womans instinct goes something like this: "if he cant take care of himself, how is he going to take care of me and a possible family?"

i think that dick size doesnt matter that much, but you have to be able to keep it up. one problem that i always have is that i watch a lot of porn with very beautiful women. then i go on dates with normal women and i dont like them so much, so i cant keep a strong erection. thankfully theres viagra :D

for meeting girls i recommend to start online. theres a ton of sites and apps. theres also tutorials on how to be more successful at them.

i recommend that before you try to find a relationship, first try to find sex. as much as you can.

also you may want to start with prostitutes, i dont know if they are readily available in your area.

you are going to need a lot of money for the prostitutes, the drugs and alcohol, and the dates.

so step one is getting work.

this is my recommend as a man who has always had trouble getting sex and relationships, but has managed to get some anyway.

have you noticed that the most successful men with women, are huge liars?
HAHA its an old post. but an interesting topic.
 
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unperson

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brutalus said:
there was a thread recently that asked: what is the worth of a human?

- money
- possesions
- knowledge
- looks
- social skills
- other skills
- noble character
- intelligence
- physical power
- others i dont remember

its not that you absolutely need any of these, but they add up to make your overall worth, i think.

a key point is that the dynamic changes depending on the worth difference between you and the woman you are trying to seduce. if the woman has a lot more worth than you, you are going to have to work a lot, and vice versa.

in my personal experience I have always lied to women in order to get them to like me. the first thing i lie about is pretending i care about life.

now it is true that women detest lack of confidence, and can smell it from a mile away. so thats another point where you are going to have to lie like a lawyer. i usually got drunk before or during dates to help with this.

i believe its mostly women telling you not to lie to them, hahaha.

another necessary lie, was that i had to pretend to be interested in what they said, instead of being mad with desire for sex. you cannot tell a woman: lets fuck and then i will pay attention to you.

i imagine you dont dress up, bathe and brush your teeth regularly. but you are going to have to pretend that you do. i think the womans instinct goes something like this: "if he cant take care of himself, how is he going to take care of me and a possible family?"

i think that dick size doesnt matter that much, but you have to be able to keep it up. one problem that i always have is that i watch a lot of porn with very beautiful women. then i go on dates with normal women and i dont like them so much, so i cant keep a strong erection. thankfully theres viagra :D

for meeting girls i recommend to start online. theres a ton of sites and apps. theres also tutorials on how to be more successful at them.

i recommend that before you try to find a relationship, first try to find sex. as much as you can.

also you may want to start with prostitutes, i dont know if they are readily available in your area.

you are going to need a lot of money for the prostitutes, the drugs and alcohol, and the dates.

so step one is getting work.

this is my recommend as a man who has always had trouble getting sex and relationships, but has managed to get some anyway.

have you noticed that the most successful men with women, are huge liars?
See, maybe I'm just an angry idealist, but this is where my thoughts lead to rejecting the value of having such frivolous attachments to love/relationships/sex. Accept the superior option of enlightened cave dwelling monk status! Ok the 'superior' feature is an innately hypocritical aspect to such spiritual pontificating but I digress
 
brutalus

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NamelessBeing said:
See, maybe I'm just an angry idealist, but this is where my thoughts lead to rejecting the value of having such frivolous attachments to love/relationships/sex. Accept the superior option of enlightened cave dwelling monk status! Ok the 'superior' feature is an innately hypocritical aspect to such spiritual pontificating but I digress
the problem is that the body and the soul crave contact... the fools.
 

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