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WornOutLife

WornOutLife

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Don't.
You can get a girlfriend but you, just like most of us, are dealing with a lot of mental problems such as depression and suicidal thoughts. It's not easy to date someone when we're feeling like this.

Just try to get better and dating opportunities will show up if you look for them.

(I recommend visiting OMEGLE. I met some girls from there IRL a few times)
 
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Largeletters

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For so long I envied those who could get relationships, but then, I began to envy those who weren't in one. Both of my relationships caused me pain that I don't think will ever go away. Even though the two people were vastly different (so I thought) and I met them at different times in my life, they were also manipulative, controlling and narcissistic. One was a girl my age who I was with for over a year, the majority of the relationship long distance, and another was with a guy 7 years older than me for forty days, completely long distance.

My point being... there are blessings in both. I hope you find peace and happiness in the ways that work for you.
 
Scribble Fan

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I kind of feel the same way. At the same time I'm a complete nervous wreck so I'm not sure how well a relationship would go lol
 
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Not Being

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You can try MGTOW, it helped me a lot, it gave me peace and freedom. The process of change is relative, but most of us who have tried it, it worked. It is an option.
But I clarify: it is your choice.
 
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i envy ppl with good fwbs instead. relationships arn't for me. they seem like too much work. not to mention suffering is always included when talking about such. no thank you, i bring enough suffering to myself already.

but i hope you find someone,op. the fact that you want to be in a romantic relationship means you're on the right start to getting one. 1st step: desire. just gonna take some trial and error.
 
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GenesAndEnvironment

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NothingElseMatters said:
I would if i had money
I mean that relationships are in the vast majority of cases temporary and often even transactional to some extent. A disgusting truth.
 
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lonerclown666

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the people who can get girlfriends are privileged ones i will die without having a girlfriend and hurts so much but in the end of the day life is meaningless
 
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Roseate

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lonerclown666 said:
the people who can get girlfriends are privileged ones i will die without having a girlfriend and hurts so much but in the end of the day life is meaningless
I don't know about privileged. It might be good for a while but it literally involves putting a lot of efforts. It's not all kisses and fun. You have to put work into the relationship. And do you really think you can do that? I can't see myself being in a relationship until I'm mentally healthy or on my way, or working on myself mentally. Otherwise, what's the point?
 
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GenesAndEnvironment said:
These days you don't "get" a gf, you rent one.
I get pops up saying hundreds of hot singles in my area. I didn’t realise how many! Which is strange as my village probably has less than 100 people in it.

I guess the farmers must be inbreeding pretty quickly nowadays
I don’t know how you are in terms of your social mobility but you just have to get stuck in so to speak and subject yourself to the slog of trying to find someone. It’s bloody hard for ole average joe public, let alone if you have other concerns to overcome. Hopefully you can have some success. Often it’s not a quick fix.

I got lucky but I squandered my health. But I was younger and in higher education so I had chances to interact with people. Nowadays it’s bloody hard with things like tinder where everyone is so fake deceitful and dishonest
 
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restforeternity

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Some people actually don't want any at all as it's a constant source of stress and anxiety for them.
 
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lonerclown666

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Roseate said:
I don't know about privileged. It might be good for a while but it literally involves putting a lot of efforts. It's not all kisses and fun. You have to put work into the relationship. And do you really think you can do that? I can't see myself being in a relationship until I'm mentally healthy or on my way, or working on myself mentally. Otherwise, what's the point?
i dont care for me they are privileged
 
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Curious89

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I prefer being alone. I have schizoid tendencies (diagnosed by psychologist).
 
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Roseate

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lonerclown666 said:
i dont care for me they are privileged
Well get one, wait a while then we can talk about how privileged it is. Especially if they hurt you or worse you hurt them. Or something bad happens to them. Such a privileged. Cuz it's not like a lot of things could possibly go wrong.
 
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Journeytoletgo

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I envy pretty girls who have boyfriends and are always the first choice. No guy ever had a crush on me before

but then again I did have one relationship before and it’s just too stressful I ended up breaking it off. I think the best form of relationship begin in friendship. I can’t handle sexual relations as I get too emotional and it brings me to the edge and I become incredibly irrational like with the guy I been posting about on here who he and I didn’t even have a solid friendship or base before hand. Sometimes I envy people in relationships however now I just don’t care because it’s too much lol
 
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