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OK, this topic for me is the most important of all...

How can you keep yourself together without good sex and emotional fulfillment for years?

What kind of damage can cause that in your life?

How to deal with that and to be patient?

Sex and love is so important for me I think those are the main things in life and feel fucked up cause I don't have them..... Anyone relate?
 
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Sex? What was that about? I think I remember something about it lol.

Now, talking seriously...

I miss being with a girl while being in my bed cuddling and watching Netflix! Epic days.

Whatever happens to you, I wish you lots of love and peace!!

Hugs,

Matt
 
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WornOutLife said:
Sex? What was that about? I think I remember something about it lol.

Now, talking seriously...

I miss being with a girl while being in my bed cuddling and watching Netflix! Epic days.

Whatever happens to you, I wish you lots of love and peace!!

Hugs,

Matt
I think those kind of things are everything..... The more time you don't get them the more crazy you get!

Have a good day Matt
 
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Well, put yourself out there & you might get lucky. What else can anyone do? There are no recipes, no guarantees...
 
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Have you tried dating (hookup) apps?
 
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hotelbeneathground said:
Well, put yourself out there & you might get lucky. What else can anyone do? There are no recipes, no guarantees...
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Beachedwhale said:
Have you tried dating (hookup) apps?
I've dated like a thousand guys that is not the point.... The thing is I never get to have quality sex or relationships
 
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David94spain said:
OK, this topic for me is the most important of all...

How can you keep yourself together without good sex and emotional fulfillment for years?

What kind of damage can cause that in your life?

How to deal with that and to be patient?

Sex and love is so important for me I think those are the main things in life and feel fucked up cause I don't have them..... Anyone relate?
If I knew, I may not be in this forum.
 
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David94spain said:
OK, this topic for me is the most important of all...

How can you keep yourself together without good sex and emotional fulfillment for years?

What kind of damage can cause that in your life?

How to deal with that and to be patient?

Sex and love is so important for me I think those are the main things in life and feel fucked up cause I don't have them..... Anyone relate?
I could have both right now if I let it into my life, but I refuse. I’m not dragging someone else into my pity party for one.
 
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loopylou said:
I could have both right now if I let it into my life, but I refuse. I’m not dragging someone else into my pity party for one.
Is there anybody in your life that you think would offer that, or do you think they would just be easy to find?
 
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Celerity said:
Is there anybody in your life that you think would offer that, or do you think they would just be easy to find?
Finding sex is proper easy to find
A genuine, honest and mutual respect & understanding, not so.
can’t be arsed with anything in between
 
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loopylou said:
Finding sex is proper easy to find
A genuine, honest and mutual respect & understanding, not so.
can’t be arsed with anything in between
Fair enough. I can’t get either. As a joke on Reddit that has been making the rounds - the people I attract and the people I’m attracted to are parallel lines. Getting rejected by both sexes over here like a fucking boss.
 
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Celerity said:
Fair enough. I can’t get either. As a joke on Reddit that has been making the rounds - the people I attract and the people I’m attracted to are parallel lines. Getting rejected by both sexes over here like a fucking boss.
I attract younger men , which I have learnt my lesson with. I’m bi sexual but seem to attract less women than men. Well, I used too. Prior to becoming a twice a year socialiser :)
 
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loopylou said:
I attract younger men , which I have learnt my lesson with. I’m bi sexual but seem to attract less women than men. Well, I used too. Prior to becoming a twice a year socialiser :)
Well, law of numbers and all that. More straight men than lesbian/bi women by a large margin. Both olds dudes and young dudes have expressed interest. I was pretty stupid for not taking more chances. Some had huge red flags the size of TX, so I did good to refuse their attention.

But in the end, I guess they all got the last laugh instead of me. Feeling fucking stupid right now for obsessing over this chick who ghosted me. My post history reveals the extent of my near-inceldom.
 
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loopylou said:
I attract younger men , which I have learnt my lesson with. I’m bi sexual but seem to attract less women than men. Well, I used too. Prior to becoming a twice a year socialiser :)
Are younger men more trouble. You said you learned a lesson. What lessons, I'm wondering?
 
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loopylou said:
Finding sex is proper easy to find
This is the issue: women think it's the same for both sexes. I have no doubt it's true for women but men are getting left on the shelf big time in this new Tinder-verse.
 
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This is the issue: women think it's the same for both sexes. I have no doubt it's true for women but men are getting left on the shelf big time in this new Tinder-verse.

No, not all women have access to love and sex and to say that we do is simply a myth, signed an ugly, alone female.

What exactly is it that is being defined as sex?

Is it the simple act of a penis going into a vagina, or is it mutual experience where you body enjoy the body of the other person, someone who actually cares about your pleasure and you feel safe and loved?

When you strip the act of sex to the point where it's this clinical, cold, experience you have to ask, who would even want that? And who is anyone to criticise someone for not wanting that?

When people even think of female involuntary celibates it's always from the perspective that our experience is parallel to an incel who are perceived to be purely interested in sex and that by being their female counterpart so are we.

But we have to understand that sex is very different for women than it is men.

Men are nearly guaranteed to climax whereas it can be unenjoyable as a woman even when you're doing it with someone who loves and respects you let alone with someone that doesn't.

Many sexually active women haven't even experienced an orgasm.

Really, when people say any woman can get sex they actually mean, "you should be able to find at least one man that will be willing to stick their penis in you", which is extremely misogynistic.

It's quite telling that when a woman expresses her desire for love and reciprocal sex it's rebutted by the perspective of what men think and want.

If a woman is having sex with a man that she doesn't know it's unlikely that he'll know how to pleasure her or will even be successful in doing so, given that many men don't know *what* a clitoris is let alone *where* it is.

But no, I'm supposed to be content with the reality that I may get a man's penis hard enough to enter me.

And is that really a testament of anything?

"Men will fuck anything, even a sandwich",

And how is that supposed to make me feel, to compare my body which I see as a shrine, to various inanimate objects that men are willing to thrust their penis into in order to make themselves come?

"Men will even fuck animals."

Do you see me as an animal? Or am I a human being who deserves to feel love an affection?

Why does that have to be good enough for me? And who is anyone to decide that it is?

And who are these men that I can have sex with exactly?

Because legitimately, the only men a that have ever expressed interest in me are older men, many of whom were drunks/addicts and/or homeless.

I may be ugly but I'm clean and I put effort into my appearance. I'm not going to have sexual escapades with those types of men to prove a point to some arrogant stranger.

So yeah, a woman can get sex if she has next to no standards, doesn't care about whether or not she has an orgasm and doesn't mind being used as a human fleshlight, to some man who doesn't give a shit about her and is just using her to get off.
 
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I'm sorry you seem to have experienced the life of an incel like me. Unlike many I do believe femcels are out there. I guess I meant in general these good-looking girls seem to so often post stuff thinking they're actually unwanted...
 
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BluesRunTheGame said:
This is the issue: women think it's the same for both sexes. I have no doubt it's true for women but men are getting left on the shelf big time in this new Tinder-verse.
I don’t know my two brothers have no issues getting women and they are both disgusting hygiene wise
 
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Thisgirlwantstosleep said:
So yeah, a woman can get sex if she has next to no standards, doesn't care about whether or not she has an orgasm and doesn't mind being used as a human fleshlight, to some man who doesn't give a shit about her and is just using her to get off.
It's good to be able to see quickly if a guy (or girl) is a douchebag or not first. It makes all the difference. Avoid the users. There is often a big difference in how they interact. There should be immediate feelings of mutual liking and friendship. You can feel if they are receiving you that way or not. A user will cling on to you but you won't feel that warm friendship.
 
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WornOutLife said:
Sex? What was that about? I think I remember something about it lol.

Now, talking seriously...

I miss being with a girl while being in my bed cuddling and watching Netflix! Epic days.

Whatever happens to you, I wish you lots of love and peace!!

Hugs,

Matt
That's true. Being with a girl makes me feel good but it's just temporary. After some time I feel suicidal again.
 
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Kind of strange OP has claimed to have been in "like a thousand" relationships yet is having trouble finding love/sex.

> How can you keep yourself together without good sex and emotional fulfillment for years?

Well if you have schizophrenia like me the "urge for romance" might be practically vacant! A lot of people seem to be seriously effected by a lack of romance, to them it is soul crushing. I am kind of glad I can't really experience it.
 
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David94spain said:
I think those kind of things are everything..... The more time you don't get them the more crazy you get!

Have a good day Matt
I've never gotten them. But I am not crazy. Not that crazy anyways.
 
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I honestly wish I never had sex and remained a virgin. Maybe my views around sex and why I feel so low and disgusted after the act is because I was told it should be done in marriage and because I failed to do so I ashamed of myself. Anyway I prefer human friendship, romance, and if there is to be sex it will be just holding hands and kissing not actual penetrative sex as I feel used and unfulfilled and empty. But that’s my perspective and experience