- Feb 22, 2021
taylor321 said:That's so cool and original to completely leave out my concerns and just make it about u and YOUR experience instead of me and the countless other women who have had creepy experiences on here. I never said anything about ALL the mods being like that. I think it's pretty duchey to defend someone "volunteering" time to mess with suicidal people. I literally made a post like this before and then one of them deleted it yet they haven't banned a creepy guy (who's been on here for years) and keeps messing with people, that's literally what this thread is about. Your username is how u make me feel lol. Your response shows u have no experience with these types of people, perhaps it's cause u defend them. You should really try NOT doing that. "If you don't like the service you are getting here you are welcome to leave." I wasn't even talking to you but u felt the need to respond being rude because???? This thread is literally about what I AM talking about.... People like u ignore the guy this thread is about meanwhile the people being affected get garbage replies from people like u who couldn't care less.
Honestly speaking, I think these people should just be outted, username and all, along with the experiences. When they're reported, that's all nice and good but I read that after some time has passed, their account goes back to being "like new" meaning the percentage slowly goes back to 0 (once they reach a certain percentage, they're banned) or something and they can just continue operating in the dark. I think the only way for this is to out them to the public to warn other users about them. That's what I did about one specific individual. Mods alone can't monitor thousands of people all at once so I think this helps each user monitor their own surroundings themselves as well without relying on the help of mods. The community people could rely on each other this way instead of putting it all on the mods' shoulders. You'd be surprised how many have had experiences with 1 user but no one knows about it because no one spoke about it.
There is a specific rule about not revealing anyone's personal infos publicly though, but I think that applies to identifying infos such as their name, date of birth, etc. (It's written in the rules). Meaning that all members can absolutely share the experiences they've had with user x y or z. Not being able to do this, is censorship, which is what this site is against. As long as the full name or any other identifying infos (username excluded otherwise, it'd be almost pointless) aren't being shared publicly, there should be no issues. This is the only way to increase safety. It's loud warnings, a section where users can find infos about offending users and individuals and of course vigilance, alertness, awareness, smart moves and a plan. That was originally the purpose of media, it's information for awareness and safety, SS should have something like this. This will make users wiser about what they say/share and how they interact with others, as well as informing them of what type of people are on this forum and the internet in general. It's unfortunate that things had to get so bad for people to be made aware of the dangers in this world.
Of course, there might be issues of blackmail etc but I think the only reason people don't speak about their experiences is because they're scared of not being believed, of being ridiculed, attacked etc. Or they may even self-blame and keep everything to themselves because they believe it was all their fault. That's why, I suggest there be a section for this kind of thing, a place for people who've encountered offending/threatening individuals to share their experiences and the username of said individuals so others can take from it and be vigilant and take the matter into their own hands as well (kind of like the scams megathread but more like an entire section where everyone can post their own threads and experiences, it would be easier to comment under/find/etc). Keeping evidence is key as well so I suggest avoiding deleting messages etc. Mods should be informed on top of all of this.
These are all suggestions of course. It's up to all individuals.
Shed light and the dark will cease existing.
And sorry to the victims. Hopefully we can learn to use the past to create a better/safer/happier present and a better/safer/happier future, for ourselves and for all of those we can do it for.
This is a general message.