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lofticries

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ppl need to stop treating this site as if its tinder. plenty of hook up sites around. why pester someone who is suicidal for a hook up. that's sad in so many ways.

And despite the current bullshit that has been going on around this site I don't see why I should abandon it. predators and dupes are all around even in anime forums....especially in anime forums. Just be careful everyone and pay attention to the red flags.
 
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Remember when we were talking about jeremy in that post and x_LittleJeremy_x completely lost his shit once he failed to make us talk shit about Marquis?

Then he started catfishing people on this forum and posting nothing but extremely divisive stuff to taunt people and sow discord.

Once a manipulative cunt, always a manipulative cunt.
 
Albus Dumbledore

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RainAndSadness said:
Alt of BipolarGuy.
Well I am quite speechless. I thought “Little Amy” was a real person.

I also thought all the accusations of catfishing and sock puppeting were just paranoia. You live and learn.

I think it’s quite pathetic of BipolarGuy to stoop to this. As if we all don’t have enough to deal with.

There were a number of people on this forum that called out “LittleAmy” from the beginning. They were right, I was wrong.

I take off my hat to them.
 
poppeye

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Jesus, that's terrible most of the members I've known on here are actually really chill, surprising to see something like this. I just hope the victims are doing well.
 
MMB

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Uncle Donk said:
I don't understand why people are so shocked when stuff like this happens. There are predators online trying to assault women and its been happening since the birth of internet. The guy was a piece of shit and should be punished but those women are partly to blame for being so Naive.
What a nasty thing to write. As a member of a site like this you should be more aware than most how depression messes with rational thought processes.

Someone desperately unhappy to the point of wanting to ctb is more likely to ignore or not even notice red flags because they’re overwhelmed with sadness or pain, and so eager to exit.

Your victim blaming is horrible. Totally lacking in compassion and empathy. I can only hope that you’ll reflect on this and find some way to understand how suicidality can warp “normal” thought processes.
 
SweetDreams500

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Albus Dumbledore said:
Well I am quite speechless. I thought “Little Amy” was a real person.

I also thought all the accusations of catfishing and sock puppeting were just paranoia. You live and learn.

I think it’s quite pathetic of BipolarGuy to stoop to this. As if we all don’t have enough to deal with.

There were a number of people on this forum that called out “LittleAmy” from the beginning. They were right, I was wrong.

I take off my hat to them.
who's bipolarguy and jeremy?
is tess involved?
 
MartyByrde

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Anonymous_A said:
anyone who gives info out on here (online too) are just asking for it.

Vunerable people get drawn into it, or somebody acts vulnerable and draws people in.

Dumb af to even remotely trust anyone on here. Nothing personal to anyone but people who play stupid games get stupid prized lul
More victim blaming. Does "lul" mean you find it funny as well?
 
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Can you wannabe saints stop quoting the so called victim blamers

Preaching compassion and empathy for the poor victims but then in the same breath public shaming someone with an opinion. If you believe their post are hurtful then so are your 'not so well meant' replies to them. Double sta..
 
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GenesAndEnvironment

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Tfw Jeremy didn't choose you for naughty evidence gathering, robbing you of a chance to think that an e-girl was interested in you.

 
demuic

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Fragile said:
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Remember when we were talking about jeremy in that post and x_LittleJeremy_x completely lost his shit once he failed to make us talk shit about Marquis?

Then he started catfishing people on this forum and posting nothing but extremely divisive stuff to taunt people and sow discord.

Once a manipulative cunt, always a manipulative cunt.
I knew that user was a troll but it was still somewhat surprised that other users were proven correct that he was an alt. Though not completely shocked...
 
MMB

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Exhausted! said:
Can you wannabe saints stop quoting the so called victim blamers

Preaching compassion and empathy for the poor victims but then in the same breath public shaming someone with an opinion. If you believe their post are hurtful then so are your 'not so well meant' replies to them. Double sta..
Bull! Calling out bad behaviour is not the same as engaging in bad behaviour. If their behaviour is shameful then shaming them is appropriate.

Would you take the same stance with racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia etc etc?
 
Life_and_Death

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MMB said:
Bull! Calling out bad behaviour is not the same as engaging in bad behaviour. If their behaviour is shameful then shaming them is appropriate.

Would you take the same stance with racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia etc etc?
If I read the one you commented on right did you even read there second post where they reworded it? They aren't victim blaming, while I don't disagree that when one is down they can miss the signs this doesn't change the fact that they should be watching for them. The other person shouldn't have done it at all but people like that exist so you have to watch out for them every where's you go.

Also multiple people have already commented on it. This 'victim blaming' thing has been drug out for days. At this point yes it's bad/hurtful behavior. There's no need to hound someone
 
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Life_and_Death said:
If I read the one you commented on right did you even read there second post where they reworded it? They aren't victim blaming, while I don't disagree that when one is down they can miss the signs this doesn't change the fact that they should be watching for them. The other person shouldn't have done it at all but people like that exist so you have to watch out for them every where's you go.

Also multiple people have already commented on it. This 'victim blaming' thing has been drug out for days. At this point yes it's bad/hurtful behavior. There's no need to hound someone
Who’s hounding? I replied once, to one comment by that particular poster. They may have made further posts but I replied to that one. If they reworded their post, great. I don’t see the problem.
 
Life_and_Death

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MMB said:
Who’s hounding? I replied once, to one comment by that particular poster. They may have made further posts but I replied to that one. If they reworded their post, great. I don’t see the problem.

Life_and_Death said:
Also multiple people have already commented on it. This 'victim blaming' thing has been drug out for days.
While you might only be mentioning it this one time. It has been mentioned by others in the past. While in your eyes it was only once to the person you are commenting to it is multiple times and they're probably tired of hearing it expecially considering that's not even what they meant by it
 
MartyByrde

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Life_and_Death said:
If I read the one you commented on right did you even read there second post where they reworded it? They aren't victim blaming, while I don't disagree that when one is down they can miss the signs this doesn't change the fact that they should be watching for them. The other person shouldn't have done it at all but people like that exist so you have to watch out for them every where's you go.

Also multiple people have already commented on it. This 'victim blaming' thing has been drug out for days. At this point yes it's bad/hurtful behavior. There's no need to hound someone
May I ask you to please chill out? You're being argumentative, and making baseless accusations. I don't want this thread closed. Thank you.
 
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it's_all_a_game

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Holy shite, WTF is happening on this site recently? Jeremy is making this place much worse. I just might delete my account.
 
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Life_and_Death

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MartyByrde said:
May I ask you to please chill out? You're being argumentative, and making baseless accusations. I don't want this thread closed. Thank you.
No I'm not
 
Uncle Donk

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sign....I just wanna reiterate that my intention was not to blame the victims of this tragic story. There's no excuse to take advantage of vulnerable members of this forum. If you are in a state of mind which lacks the discipline to avoid those situations then I suggest you leave SS. Sexual predators will always be lurking. Being pro-active by reporting to mods will partly solve the problem. Also refrain from meeting other members IRL would be another solution. Virtual meeting has gained steamed during the pandemic and it's a good alternative. I did not mean to cause this much drama. I should have reworded my initial post differently and I apologize if anyone got offended by my words. Please read my subsequent post for a better understanding of what I was trying to convey to the masses. I standby what I wrote notwithstanding my first post and if you still think I'm victim blaming then I don't know what to tell ya. Look for solutions instead of head hunting.
 
MMB

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Life_and_Death said:
While you might only be mentioning it this one time. It has been mentioned by others in the past. While in your eyes it was only once to the person you are commenting to it is multiple times and they're probably tired of hearing it expecially considering that's not even what they meant by it
With respect, you aren’t in their mind. You *assume* that they meant something other than what they wrote.
Uncle Donk said:
If you are in a state of mind which lacks the discipline to avoid those situations then I suggest you leave SS.
Sigh.

Uncle Donk, you are a piece of work.
 
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Life_and_Death

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MMB said:
With respect, you aren’t in their mind. You *assume* that they meant something other than what they wrote.

Sigh.

Uncle Donk, you are a piece of work.
And by assuming what you think I'm assuming you are no better. And no I'm not assuming anything. 1) I understood what they wrote and 2) they even said that's not what they meant so I didn't assume anything
 
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But for all they
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Went through their post history "No ulterior motive or anything" *proceeds to ask a 20 yo girl to become their maid and give them money*.

The one I dealt with had an obsession/fixation with "becoming one" and "spending eternity together". They asked for a place to stay the night and mentioned being/getting married to each other, and I have nothing against the act or desire in people to become trans but I feel this needs to be mentioned. The user claimed that they wanted to be female but were born male but were lesbian but didn't want to become trans, I had a feeling this was a technique/ruse to get their targetted/desired prey to drop their guard, soften up and open up so they can get more trust, infos and eventually, what they want. This often happens online with strangers faking their characteristics and behavior to match their targets'. It could've been true but better safe than sorry, staying safe costs less than putting oneself in danger by believing possible lies.

This particular user (Lady Black) contacted me after I posted in the partners' thread so that can be informative about the range of intentions of the people lurking on there/using it. I mainly posted in the partners' thread to test the waters and sure enough, these are the types of creatures I found. I was lucky to have been informed of the dangers of this world and the internet so I learned to never give real infos to anyone on the internet or even in real life, you can never be too safe.

Anyway, here's a quick warning and safety lesson for those of you reading this that are not familiar with the internet and all its dangers, you should take notes. In no particular order:

- Learn to FULLY protect your anonymity and online presence. Learn how simply being in the chat or clicking on a link can give away your location to those with the right tools. Look into using VPNs, Tor, etc but don't just blindly trust anything either just because it claims to protect you. Study everything. Study everything you use just as you would study the foods you consume and home you will live in. Technology advances at a rapid rate, if you're not up to date, you will be left behind and vulnerable. If you're serious about your safety, take the matter into your own hands.
- Predators thrive on vulnerability, naivety, isolation and lack of knowledge, lack of information and lack of experience. If you tick any of these boxes, here's what you should and shouldn't do:

  • Keep all your communications in the public forum and "in the light". Private messages are the equivalent of dark alleys in real life. By limiting all your communications to public ones, you greatly reduce your risks of being isolated, blackmailed or not believed, in case something happens. You will always have witnesses and helpers and it is easier to report because mods can see the entire conversation.
  • Avoid giving away details that could lead online strangers to you in real life, such as your location (even if general), age, gender, etc. Even if you use vpns, and anonymity products, they do nothing if you give away your location yourself (unless it's fake, we'll get to that).
  • Ask yourself if pm'ing a user is really necessary. Avoid pm'ing as much as you possibly can and if you can't, keep it simple, straight-to-the-point, superficial and of course, follow this guidance.
  • Lie. If you can't or don't want to avoid answering but still want to stay safe, lie. Misinform the online stranger.
  • Remember that they could be lying to you as well. If you can, so can they, but if they can, so can you. It's all about how you use what.
  • You may feel exhausted from pretending or having to watch your back all the time. In that case, stick to lurking, if you can't trust yourself to follow all of this general guidance, avoid interactions altogether. Do not attempt skydiving for the fun and thrill of it (if you don't want to die or be severely injured) if you don't know how to open a parachute. Do not venture into the woods to find a specific flower if you don't know how to use a shotgun or other weapons to protect yourself from predators and/or ruthless savage animals/beings. If finding the flower is truly important to you, you will be encouraged and guided to learn and master the art of protecting yourself on your journey.
  • Learn the art of observation but do not only trust what you see and hear. Take all the risks and possibilities into consideration and plan ahead of time, ways to undo/counteract them if they arise.
  • Tune into your feelings and listen but again, do not only act on one aspect/part of things. Look at the whole picture and decide your course of action based on your goal and your surroundings.
  • Do not expect anyone to be kind and gentle sweet souls. Do not expect anyone to have your best interests at heart. Do not expect anyone to help you protect yourself. Do not expect anyone to help or support you. Do not expect anyone to take your side or agree with you. Always remember that everyone is selfish. And always remember to be selfish. There is nothing wrong with it, in fact, it's how it should be. Always behave as if you were on your own and stay focused on your goal but do not be afraid of asking for help and/or accepting it if you need it, just remember this guidance.
  • You can express yourself all you want as long as you stay alert and aware about what you share and how it could potentially affect you in real life.
  • Think ahead of time, study the tools you're using, always check your privacy settings and preferences, plan.
  • Do not underestimate or minimise anything or anyone. People can track down your ip address and location simply by your presence in the chat or by you clicking on a link or sometimes even by you logging in.
  • Keep records and evidence if something seems suspicious or offends you. The chat feature especially, doesn't keep logs or records I think so everything that happens there will vanish into thin air. Do not delete messages until you're sure deleting them won't affect you in any way. Be sure.
  • Read through people's post history and pay attention to any potential red flags. Not having or having a minimal post history is a red flag. If the user only sticks to certain kinds of threads or avoids talking about themselves somewhat in depth in the public forum, it's a red flag. These are not the only ones. Look for all of them.
  • Some predator users have planned their routes and way of operation ahead of time so do not believe everything you read. They may have planned everything before even making an account.
  • Everything can be faked. Everything can be a lie. Keep this in mind before you do or say anything.
  • Do not run away from the opportunity to learn if it comes your way, especially if it regards your safety and well-being in any way.
  • Give importance to everything and deal with them in a way that is beneficial or helpful for you.
  • Take your time before saying or doing something online. Unless it's gathering evidence, in that case, you must act quickly. Think ahead of time. Think of the kinds of responses you might get and how to react.
  • Never tell the truth upfront. Always tell or respond with lies. You decide when (if) to bring out the truth.
  • Never assume that the longer you know or interact with someone, the more you will know about them and/or be able to trust them. Some predators take advantage of this mentality. They will feed you everything they need to feed you, for as long as they need to, to get what they want.
  • Proof-read. In case you accidently give away a piece of information that could get you targetted or attacked by some predators.
  • Be ready to face the consequences of what you say, share and/or do. No one has any real power over you behind the screen if you protect yourself as best as you can. If having learnt all of this, you decide to blindly and/or thoughtlessly trust a stranger or give a piece of information, without preparation, that could affect you in real life or in any way, be prepared to face the consequences and own up. You are responsible for what you say/share/do and what you do with everything. This is not saying "blame yourself", this is saying take responsible and informed actions. Whatever happened or happens, do not be afraid of reporting offenders to the authorities, keeping things bottled up will not help you, it will just weigh on your shoulders. If nothing comes out of reporting them, do your best to spread awareness in your own way to prevent future misfortunes for others and yourself. What's done is done, think about how it can be used beneficially for yourself and for others now and from now on.
  • When it comes to your fulfilling your well-being and safety, the knowledge, guidance and information is readily available. But, you are responsible for seeking, absorbing and using them in a way that fulfills your well-being and safety.
All in all, only experience and time can truly teach you until it's ingrained but these are the basics, I guess. I know this is a lot of work but this is for those who want to seriously protect themselves while benefitting from what is available and are willing to do what it takes and take the matter into their own hands. I would say feel free to pm me if you have any questions but if you've read and followed all of that, you know that's not something I would do. ;) Feel free to ask questions in this thread or create one and tag me though haha. And DuckDuckGo can answer most of your questions as well.
But for all they know, they could be meeting a psycho. I mean, just because someone is mentally ill, it doesn't automatically make them vulnerable. It's hard to really tell what a person will do in a bad situation. And they might just get what's coming to them looking for an easy prey.
 
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Surprisingly enough I'm just now seeing this post and it doesn't show up on the front page for me . Definitely makes me rethink the safety in choosing partners. I guess we should've known, tons of necrophiliacs and creeps would love to come on a site like this and get their fix. The fact that this site was mentioned in a court document is not good at all either. It's giving this place even more negative publicity. I'd definitely start saving up posts from my favorite megathreads
 
MartyByrde

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Life_and_Death said:
And by assuming what you think I'm assuming you are no better. And no I'm not assuming anything. 1) I understood what they wrote and 2) they even said that's not what they meant so I didn't assume anything
But you're not being argumentative? Here you wrote a two point argument with numbers 'n all. You're either oblivious to your own behavior, or doing it intentionally.
 
Life_and_Death

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MartyByrde said:
But you're not being argumentative? Here you wrote a two point argument with numbers 'n all. You're either oblivious to your own behavior, or doing it intentionally.
But their behaviour and comment is just fine apparently. Please stop singling me out. If you want to say I'm argumentative then fine but I'm not the only one doing it so unless you want to point out the others as well please stop. And don't bother responding to this you're being ignored for harassing me when I'm not the only one. (however I don't see how standing up for myself and another is being argumentative. Nice to know I can't get away from that bs here as well)
 
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