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Does anyone have any stuffed animals that help them feel not so alone? If it's not a stuffed animal, what is it? A talisman, a picture, a coat, a note... what helps you through the worst of it, or was there for you when it was horrible?
 
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I have a big teddy bear, that belonged to my mum. Dad got it for her one Christmas and she went absolutely potty over it treated him like a human. Mum passed in 2012 and Ugly Elvis (name of bear) is under my care now. I lost my beloved dad before Christmas and am totally empty and alone. I am currently in bed with my laptop and have Ugly Elvis bear sat next to me, shortly shall be cuddling down under the duvet for the night. Mum and I big Elvis Presley fans and I asked her why she called bear 'Ugly' Elvis and she said because was opposite to what Elvis was (amazingly handsome) Ugly bear is gorgeous and cuddly and my support, he's not at all 'Ugly'. I also burn candles every evening for comfort which really find soothing. I also have a photo of real Elvis above my bed, to keep me safe.
 
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I have a lot of paintings and posters and books in my room that I look at every day for comfort. Before I had them it was just white walls which was really boring and kind of dreadful sometimes. I actually have a few artbooks as well that I look at as well. I intended to continue collecting art and artbooks over time(and normal books) before I finally decided I would rather just ctb instead of continuing to suffer and collect beautiful things to look at.
 
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Only comfort item I have is Children Book with tales by Hans Christian Andersen. I often read it when I feel distressed. Although, I probably memorized it all at this point. Other items I feel emotional connection with would be my copies of "No Longer Human" and "Schoolgirl" both by Osamu Dazai and my dog's (That had sadly passed away two months ago) favorite toy. I don't use these items for coping but I will probably take them to hell with me.
 
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Three years ago I went on vacation to Spain with my mother and my brother, and at our house there was cat that visited us every day, sometimes even at night. Probably a neighbor's cat or a stray cat that figured it could get free treats and cuddles from tourists. It had truly gigantic feet, so we named her Bigfoot. She was the most gentle, most good-natured cat I ever met, even my cat-hating mother liked her. I wonder how she is doing now, if she is still alive.
Anyways, what I'm getting at is that for my next birthday, my mother got me a cat plushie that looks pretty much exactly like this cat. I took it from my bookshelf after reading this post, and it is sitting on my lap now. Luckily I live with a real cat now, but it is still comforting to have this one.
 
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selkie said:
Three years ago I went on vacation to Spain with my mother and my brother, and at our house there was cat that visited us every day, sometimes even at night. Probably a neighbor's cat or a stray cat that figured it could get free treats and cuddles from tourists. It had truly gigantic feet, so we named her Bigfoot. She was the most gentle, most good-natured cat I ever met, even my cat-hating mother liked her. I wonder how she is doing now, if she is still alive.
Anyways, what I'm getting at is that for my next birthday, my mother got me a cat plushie that looks pretty much exactly like this cat. I took it from my bookshelf after reading this post, and it is sitting on my lap now. Luckily I live with a real cat now, but it is still comforting to have this one.
That's actually really sweet you having that to remember her by. I too hope Bigfoot is still doing okay. At least better than us I would hope.
 
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Thereisnothing said:
I have a big teddy bear, that belonged to my mum. Dad got it for her one Christmas and she went absolutely potty over it treated him like a human. Mum passed in 2012 and Ugly Elvis (name of bear) is under my care now. I lost my beloved dad before Christmas and am totally empty and alone. I am currently in bed with my laptop and have Ugly Elvis bear sat next to me, shortly shall be cuddling down under the duvet for the night. Mum and I big Elvis Presley fans and I asked her why she called bear 'Ugly' Elvis and she said because was opposite to what Elvis was (amazingly handsome) Ugly bear is gorgeous and cuddly and my support, he's not at all 'Ugly'. I also burn candles every evening for comfort which really find soothing. I also have a photo of real Elvis above my bed, to keep me safe.
I lost my mother too. She was the only one of my parents who really cared and loved me. I'm so happy he keeps you safe and I hope he continues to <3
MysticPerception said:
I have a lot of paintings and posters and books in my room that I look at every day for comfort. Before I had them it was just white walls which was really boring and kind of dreadful sometimes. I actually have a few artbooks as well that I look at as well. I intended to continue collecting art and artbooks over time(and normal books) before I finally decided I would rather just ctb instead of continuing to suffer and collect beautiful things to look at.
Well I hope those things can continue to give you your comfort even to the end of your rope. I know it must be difficult at times, and I've felt the same way honestly.
Jean4 said:
I have a talisman I never take off. Had to throw away my stuffed animals because of asthma... so I go with my live cat Milo.
What's the talisman if I may ask, and why would you have to throw stuffed animals away over asthma?? Was it their fur that you breathed in and got sick of something? But animals really are amazing. I hope you give Milo lots of hugs.
Nemeshisu said:
Only comfort item I have is Children Book with tales by Hans Christian Andersen. I often read it when I feel distressed. Although, I probably memorized it all at this point. Other items I feel emotional connection with would be my copies of "No Longer Human" and "Schoolgirl" both by Osamu Dazai and my dog's (That had sadly passed away two months ago) favorite toy. I don't use these items for coping but I will probably take them to hell with me.
I can imagine that a children's book can be a simple read that reminds you of a time when things were simpler, which would probably de-stress me all the same. I'm not sure if you're using hell as a coined phrase or if you truly believe in a heaven/hell scenario, but I really do hope you find the peace you're looking for.
selkie said:
Three years ago I went on vacation to Spain with my mother and my brother, and at our house there was cat that visited us every day, sometimes even at night. Probably a neighbor's cat or a stray cat that figured it could get free treats and cuddles from tourists. It had truly gigantic feet, so we named her Bigfoot. She was the most gentle, most good-natured cat I ever met, even my cat-hating mother liked her. I wonder how she is doing now, if she is still alive.
Anyways, what I'm getting at is that for my next birthday, my mother got me a cat plushie that looks pretty much exactly like this cat. I took it from my bookshelf after reading this post, and it is sitting on my lap now. Luckily I live with a real cat now, but it is still comforting to have this one.
Cats reallay are mysterious creatures. I'm glad someone like that can bring you comfort. Isn't it strange how stuffed animals can have such an affect on some people, even though we normally think of them as meant for children?
Debro said:
I have a ring from a deceased person, dear to my heart.
I understand if you don't wish to talk more about this, and I won't ask what kind of ring it was. It's good that you have that last piece that you can wear/have that brings you some sort of solace.
 
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When I was a kid I had several stuffed animals that I even gave them names, they made me happy all the time, I talked about my day when I got home from school, I took two or three of them everywhere I went . I even had a stuffed dog whose name was Lucky, who was my best friend for many years.
But as time went on, I realized that they were ... cold. There was no heat there. I didn't feel as comfortable or protected as I did before. And ... I realized that they weren't listening to me. Or caring about me. Or talking to me. They just became ornaments that I liked to look at from time to time and, remembering a simpler time when I was happy ignoring the world.

The funny part is that today I see my parents the same way.
 
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The Warm Industry said:
When I was a kid I had several stuffed animals that I even gave them names, they made me happy all the time, I talked about my day when I got home from school, I took two or three of them everywhere I went . I even had a stuffed dog whose name was Lucky, who was my best friend for many years.
But as time went on, I realized that they were ... cold. There was no heat there. I didn't feel as comfortable or protected as I did before. And ... I realized that they weren't listening to me. Or caring about me. Or talking to me. They just became ornaments that I liked to look at from time to time and, remembering a simpler time when I was happy ignoring the world.

The funny part is that today I see my parents the same way.
Jesus. I don't think I've identified with a post more personally at that last part. Well... now kind of everything feels pretty cold to me so stuffed animals feeling the same way is only somewhat natural. It's sad that we can't have better parents, that we can't have people who can do more for us for whatever the circumstance(s).
 
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Midnight said:
It used to be a car. It was the best friend i ever had.
That sounds really nice. What happened if you don't mind sharing?
 
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itsmeagain said:
That sounds really nice. What happened if you don't mind sharing?

Engine needs a rebuild. It's been sitting for a few years now. Don't have the funds anymore. I still have it though. But yeah it's an unfortunate turn of events as with alot of things in my life. Whenever i wanted to escape "life" i took the key's and just drove off without a destination. It was my hobby aswell modifying and maintaining it. It was a blast to drive and worked kind of therapeutic wether is was working on it or driving it. It was basically the best thing i ever had in my life.
 
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Yes I have a stuffed whale shark as my friend/companion, she is soft, squishy, is a good pillow, and has a smile on her face =)

She legitimately makes me feel less alone, I sometimes look at her face when I’m feeling really lonely and she makes me smile.

I will be hugging her when I ctb with SN.
 
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I used to have two stuffed dogs, one I had since I was a child and one that looked exactly like my old dog. I don't know where they are, but it was worth the mention.
itsmeagain said:
Does anyone have any stuffed animals that help them feel not so alone? If it's not a stuffed animal, what is it? A talisman, a picture, a coat, a note... what helps you through the worst of it, or was there for you when it was horrible?
 
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Midnight said:
Engine needs a rebuild. It's been sitting for a few years now. Don't have the funds anymore. I still have it though. But yeah it's an unfortunate turn of events as with alot of things in my life. Whenever i wanted to escape "life" i took the key's and just drove off without a destination. It was my hobby aswell modifying and maintaining it. It was a blast to drive and worked kind of therapeutic wether is was working on it or driving it. It was basically the best thing i ever had in my life.
That sounds so effing romantic in a way... Just driving off and letting the wind carry you wherever you go. What did you do when it wore off and you had to go back home or something?
waterbottleman said:
Yes I have a stuffed whale shark as my friend/companion, she is soft, squishy, is a good pillow, and has a smile on her face =)

She legitimately makes me feel less alone, I sometimes look at her face when I’m feeling really lonely and she makes me smile.

I will be hugging her when I ctb with SN.
I.... Jeez. this is deep. I really hope she keeps you safe in the time that you need until you do what you feel is best. I know people on here will comfort you too if that's what you need.
Inferdan said:
I used to have two stuffed dogs, one I had since I was a child and one that looked exactly like my old dog. I don't know where they are, but it was worth the mention.
Maybe you should find them. Sometimes it's nice to dig up old stuff like that. Did they have names?
ctbUniquectb said:
I set all of my possessions on fire leading into an attempt, including my teddy bear from infancy. :-(
Jeez... I can imagine that must be really hard to deal with. The point would be to succeed so you wouldn't miss the things you know? Maybe there is something left? Not that any of it survived, but maybe there's something you forgot. In of itself, maybe that would be sentimental. I hope you find something to hug in this hard times, and wherever you are in the world... I wish I could send you real hugs.
 
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itsmeagain said:
That sounds so effing romantic in a way... Just driving off and letting the wind carry you wherever you go. What did you do when it wore off and you had to go back home or something?

Well it's a gutwrenching feeling knowing time is running out and you need to get home. Thinking to yourself "why do even bother?". Thinking you need to be at work in a few hours and for what ... I've experienced this hundreds and hundreds of times and still do to this day (albeit in a cheap daily driver car). I then get into bed and hope yet again that i won't see morning. But alas the cycle repeats itself every single day. I hardly ever miss a day at work too. Anyway nearly 2 decades like this have been enough.

Thank you for your interest. You're a kind person.
 
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Midnight said:
Well it's a gutwrenching feeling knowing time is running out and you need to get home. Thinking to yourself "why do even bother?". Thinking you need to be at work in a few hours and for what ... I've experienced this hundreds and hundreds of times and still do to this day (albeit in a cheap daily driver car). I then get into bed and hope yet again that i won't see morning. But alas the cycle repeats itself every single day. I hardly ever miss a day at work too. Anyway nearly 2 decades like this have been enough.

Thank you for your interest. You're a kind person.
God. That's so difficult. It's kind of like that feeling that you get when you'd drink I'd imagine. It starts off with "I don't care, it'll feel good i need to escape." Then in a couple hours you're like "Oh fuck. Fuck. I need to get my life together I need to put it all together so I can seem alright..." Even though you're not. And thank you so much for the compliment <3.
 
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itsmeagain said:
Jeez... I can imagine that must be really hard to deal with.
My life is fucked up enough that losing the teddy bear might have been the worst part from the fire. Read: it was very traumatizing but relative to me, only in a minor sense.
itsmeagain said:
The point would be to succeed so you wouldn't miss the things you know?
Appendicitis interrupted the attempt. The surgeons bled me almost to death and left me in permanent pain from two hernias. The nurses literally starved me for 2 days. I didn't receive pain control then, or for the hernias being repaired.
itsmeagain said:
I hope you find something to hug in this hard times
I won't. I have autism.
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and wherever you are in the world... I wish I could send you real hugs.
You don't. I have autism.
 
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I have a murkrow and a pumpkaboo ( pokemon) plushie I carry in my purse to comfort me when I go out I like having little buddies in my purse it makes me feel better. I own a lot of stuffed animals lol
 
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itsmeagain said:
Does anyone have any stuffed animals that help them feel not so alone? If it's not a stuffed animal, what is it? A talisman, a picture, a coat, a note... what helps you through the worst of it, or was there for you when it was horrible?

I keep my dildo’s next to me, different shapes, sizes etc... they’re not stuffed, but been stuffed (you get the picture).

Don’t you like dark comedy?
HadEnough1974 said:
I keep my dildo’s next to me, different shapes, sizes etc... they’re not stuffed, but been stuffed (you get the picture).

Don’t you like dark comedy?
I’ll spare you the pictures ;)
 
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TheBigBurden said:
I have a murkrow and a pumpkaboo ( pokemon) plushie I carry in my purse to comfort me when I go out I like having little buddies in my purse it makes me feel better. I own a lot of stuffed animals lol
Awwwww! It's so strange seeing murkrow get some love <3 pokemon really can be super sweet things to carry around you know?
 
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Midnight said:
Engine needs a rebuild. It's been sitting for a few years now. Don't have the funds anymore. I still have it though. But yeah it's an unfortunate turn of events as with alot of things in my life. Whenever i wanted to escape "life" i took the key's and just drove off without a destination. It was my hobby aswell modifying and maintaining it. It was a blast to drive and worked kind of therapeutic wether is was working on it or driving it. It was basically the best thing i ever had in my life.
I'm in the same boat. My poor car sits under a tarp, waiting for me to get it back on the road. I used to love fixing it and upgrading it. It's a really fun car to drive, it's 33 years old now and one of only a handful left. I feel like I'm letting down a really good friend, I wish I could get the energy and focus to repair it and like you did, just go for a spin and feel like I didn't have a care in the world! :-(
 
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I have two plushies I hold dear to my heart. One of them my best friend bought me and it looks exactly like his dog. He lives in another state far from me so it makes me feel closer to him. The other one is a weighted plushie from the brand sootheze. It smells like lavender and is very calming.
 
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Flippy said:
I'm in the same boat. My poor car sits under a tarp, waiting for me to get it back on the road. I used to love fixing it and upgrading it. It's a really fun car to drive, it's 33 years old now and one of only a handful left. I feel like I'm letting down a really good friend, I wish I could get the energy and focus to repair it and like you did, just go for a spin and feel like I didn't have a care in the world! :-(

Sorry to hear that. I feel the same way about it feeling like letting down an old friend. I think i could still get myself to work on mine but i need 20 times more money than i currently have to actually do it properly. It's nice to hear you didn't have a care in the world while driving it. Usually i felt depressed most of the time just driving arround but being away from everything took the edge of at least. Only time i actually felt good was when i had the chance to floor it and let all 350 pony's out ... my mind didn't have time to think about anything at those times. Tinkering on it however also brought me joy and kept my mind off of things. When you are just cruising your mind has the time to drift off into the darkness again. Anyway don't get me wrong it was still the best anti depressant i ever had.

Btw a tarp holds in moisture so speeds up rusting. If it's outside or in a damp shed at least. Anyway you probably know already but just wanted to mention it. I've got static dehumidifiers in mine all year 'round. It helps with keeping the interior fresh at least. Mine is in a rather damp shed but i don't cover it. I'm not happy about it but it beats sitting outside.
 
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Midnight said:
Sorry to hear that. I feel the same way about it feeling like letting down an old friend. I think i could still get myself to work on mine but i need 20 times more money than i currently have to actually do it properly. It's nice to hear you didn't have a care in the world while driving it. Usually i felt depressed most of the time just driving arround but being away from everything took the edge of at least. Only time i actually felt good was when i had the chance to floor it and let all 350 pony's out ... my mind didn't have time to think about anything at those times. Tinkering on it however also brought me joy and kept my mind off of things. When you are just cruising your mind has the time to drift off into the darkness again. Anyway don't get me wrong it was still the best anti depressant i ever had.

Btw a tarp holds in moisture so speeds up rusting. If it's outside or in a damp shed at least. Anyway you probably know already but just wanted to mention it. I've got static dehumidifiers in mine all year 'round. It helps with keeping the interior fresh at least. Mine is in a rather damp shed but i don't cover it. I'm not happy about it but it beats sitting outside.
I'm really sorry that you don't have the money to put into it :-( Sounds maybe like some serious engine work? Top or bottom end? I bent a couple of valves in mine once, I felt terrible to do that! :-0 Mine doesn't have those sort of horses, literally only 101bhp but weighs about as much as a bag of Doritos so goes like crazy, it does blow the cobwebs away. I really used to love just cruising along on the motorway, particularly on a summer evening around sunset, have some music playing and know it was just me and my car for the next 4 hours.

I'm glad you warned me about the tarp! That makes sense, I should probably remove it, it's in quite a sheltered spot right now so hopefully no tinworm!

I really hope you will be able to get your car running again, I hope something turns up and things will get better for you both! :-)
 
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Flippy said:
I'm really sorry that you don't have the money to put into it :-( Sounds maybe like some serious engine work? Top or bottom end? I bent a couple of valves in mine once, I felt terrible to do that! :-0 Mine doesn't have those sort of horses, literally only 101bhp but weighs about as much as a bag of Doritos so goes like crazy, it does blow the cobwebs away. I really used to love just cruising along on the motorway, particularly on a summer evening around sunset, have some music playing and know it was just me and my car for the next 4 hours.

I'm glad you warned me about the tarp! That makes sense, I should probably remove it, it's in quite a sheltered spot right now so hopefully no tinworm!

I really hope you will be able to get your car running again, I hope something turns up and things will get better for you both! :-)

Thanks i wish the same for you and your car aswell! Though i've lost all hope so fixing myself or the car is kind of a utopia. It's been long enough. I'll send a pm this weekend about the situation with my car as to not clutter the thread with car-talk.
 
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HadEnough1974 said:
I keep my dildo’s next to me, different shapes, sizes etc... they’re not stuffed, but been stuffed (you get the picture).

Don’t you like dark comedy?

I’ll spare you the pictures ;)
Thank you ever so much;) *L clutches her pearls* Actually I do like dark humour:)