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Flippy

Flippy

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Midnight said:
Thanks i wish the same for you and your car aswell! Though i've lost all hope so fixing myself or the car is kind of a utopia. It's been long enough. I'll send a pm this weekend about the situation with my car as to not clutter the thread with car-talk.
That's cool! Might do me some good to talk about cars for a bit of a change! :-)
 
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Even as a child I never held on to keepsakes. Things mean nothing to me. I don’t have any toys or any other objects that give me comfort and I cannot be parted from.

The only treasure I possess is a beautiful collection of English poems published around 1870 - the pages remind of an old illuminated manuscript, and it has a thick red hardcover with an actual engraving on it. Exquisite!
 
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I have a brass cornish pisky that I used to wear that kinda has a story behind it. I don't wear it now, somehow I don't feel worthy.
These days I just talk to the picture of my childhood dog.
Flippy said:
I'm in the same boat. My poor car sits under a tarp, waiting for me to get it back on the road. I used to love fixing it and upgrading it. It's a really fun car to drive, it's 33 years old now and one of only a handful left. I feel like I'm letting down a really good friend, I wish I could get the energy and focus to repair it and like you did, just go for a spin and feel like I didn't have a care in the world! :-(
I loved my old Saab. Actually it was three cars stuck together. I used to fix it with scrap parts.
It looked crap but my mechanic was always impressed with how well it ran.
I junked it when I realised I'd never drive again due to anxiety from lack of sleep. I bloody cried when it went.
 
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sadgirl2002

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I have a teddy bear which I've had since I was 13. He was always the one I hugged during my sleep, I have him next to me right now. I only named him after my true love after he left over a year ago. Throughout the years, I would always play with him and talk to him. I still do. I'm probably crazy, ha, but I don't care much.
 
BooGirl

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Yep! I have this little Glaceon plush, that I use to try and help me calm down sometimes. It doesn't normally work, but eh
 
UpandDownPrincess

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I love my stuff; I'm a stuff person. I travel with my own pillow, sometimes my own linens. I am decidedly high-maintenance.

For cuddling, I have always had a bear, since my father brought me one the day I was born. My current teddy is named after my husband and created by the two of us at one of those awful toy assembly places in the mall. The bear goes everywhere with me and I sleep with him always.
 
mukluk0713

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I have a shawl I got from this shelter for domestic abuse victims. It kind of smells by now and is huge, more like a blanket, but I wear it everywhere. Feels like a hug everywhere I go. :heart: Love reading all of these though, so cool to know other people have those 'security blanket' type items. I always felt a little silly for how attached I was to my shawl haha
 
AnxiousSchizoid

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I have a stuffed wolf named Luka that I cuddle with at night. He didn’t mean much to me when I first bought him, but that was back when I had a few irl friends and family members to confide in.

After my parent’s divorce and a nasty breakup, Luka became far more important to me. Luka didn’t even have a name before those things happened, but I quickly grew attached to him. You have no idea how many nights I’ve fallen asleep with my arms wrapped around his waist; crying into his fur.

Luka has helped me a lot, and I’m very fond of him. However, it can be a dreadful feeling when I look to him for help or advice, and realize that he can’t offer any. I have to guess what he is thinking by looking into his eyes, and if I’m lucid enough, the thought of “I’m talking to a fucking stuffed animal” creeps in, and the magic is lost.

I have to be just tired enough, or just drunk enough to really enjoy Luka’s company. But when I do, I feel a warmth and connection that no one else who is currently in my life can replicate.
 
stygal

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It might sound silly because I don’t get attached to things like plushies etc. because of them always been overbearingly available when I was a child - but I have a black velvet scrunchie I wear every day and if I don’t wear it on my head I have it around my wrist to kinda calm myself whenever I touch it. Same goes for my collection of lip balm which I carry everywhere I go and as of late gum. It’s like a relieve when I have those things close to me.
 
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Thereisnothing said:
I have a big teddy bear, that belonged to my mum. Dad got it for her one Christmas and she went absolutely potty over it treated him like a human. Mum passed in 2012 and Ugly Elvis (name of bear) is under my care now. I lost my beloved dad before Christmas and am totally empty and alone. I am currently in bed with my laptop and have Ugly Elvis bear sat next to me, shortly shall be cuddling down under the duvet for the night. Mum and I big Elvis Presley fans and I asked her why she called bear 'Ugly' Elvis and she said because was opposite to what Elvis was (amazingly handsome) Ugly bear is gorgeous and cuddly and my support, he's not at all 'Ugly'. I us also burn candles every evening for comfort which really find soothing. I also have a photo of real Elvis above my bed, to keep me safe.
I REALLY loved your post! The love shown is just so, so awesome. YOU really helped to make my day better knowing that there are folks out there that are so kind.

I am so sorry that you lost both your mom and dad, BUT you have Ugly Elvis and all of us. My heart and soul goes out to you as you are a kind and kindred soul.

Lots of sunshine and beautiful days to you.

Walter
 
GenesAndEnvironment

GenesAndEnvironment

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Family gave me this long pillow, apparently it can double as a body pillow.
 
Makko

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I was bought a lot of stuffed toys as a kid but the only thing I enjoyed doing with them was throwing them out of the high-rise window and watching them disappear.
 
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callme

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Slightly off-topic and potentially triggering.

Cringe question: How do you not break out in crying about feeling (being) stupid and useless for talking to a plush toy which doesn't care, doesn't talk back and doesn't give a damn? I would that's why I want to know how do you guys make it work? I feel it never will for somebody who is terrible at pretending and can't keep it up (the pretense, not anything else).

I feel the only person who gets anything out of it is Mr. Bean.

Based question: Do you know of any kinda adult depression coping stuff? Anything atypical welcome.
All I found on Scamazon were the squeaky, squishy anti-stress balls and mini gamepad-like, tiny button controllers - pppfrrt, wouldn't do a damn thing for anybody more than mildly depressed.
 
AnxiousSchizoid

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callme said:
Cringe question: How do you not break out in crying about feeling (being) stupid and useless for talking to a plush toy which doesn't care, doesn't talk back and doesn't give a damn?
I think I can answer this question. I’m not proud to, but I can.

For me, my feelings manifested out of desperation. I was very reliant on my previous partner for affirmation, and things ended badly. He unfriended me on all social media, so that I couldn’t reach out even if I wanted to. It was like losing an arm or a leg. You don’t know how you’re possibly going to function without it.

I spent months trying to go back to being the independent version of myself I was before I met him, but I couldn’t. I needed someone to confide in and be close to on a deeper level. None of the friends I had filled that role, and neither did my family. I also didn’t want to start dating again, because I knew that I was coming from a place of desperation and fear. I would likely end up hurting anybody who came into my orbit, because I was willing to latch on to just about anyone who would show even the slightest bit of affection. I flirted with a few people, but I guess I was giving off red flags, because they stopped showing interest.

When my parents got divorced, it was kind of a catalyst. It happened spontaneously, and I just started cuddling with the biggest stuffed animal I could find (my last boyfriend and I bought them for each other).

I made up a name for him, and started to refer to him by that name as a form of respect. I started doing special things for him, like tucking him into bed, and making sure he was comfortable before I left the house.

I think it’s very comparable to those “reborn dolls” that mothers use to deal with the loss of their child. You can develop feelings of love for just about anything if you’re in a bad enough place.

It’s difficult to feel ashamed or sad for developing these feelings, because it feels good, and your needs are being met—even if it’s not in a traditional way.
 
NearlyIrrelevantCake

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I collect plushies, I've got dozens of them. I have many from friends and family, some of whom are no longer on this Earth.
 
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NearlyIrrelevantCake said:
I collect plushies, I've got dozens of them. I have many from friends and family, some of whom are no longer on this Earth.
Do you name them after the people who gave them to you?
 
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