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What is more intimate, sex or kissing?

  • Sex

    Votes: 44 45.4%
  • Kissing

    Votes: 63 64.9%

  • Total voters
    97
Angst Filled Fuck Up

Angst Filled Fuck Up

Super duper enlightened
Sep 9, 2018
1,707
I don't like sex or kissing. I feel like I can't breathe while kissing and it just feels boring/like a drag. Sex is also kind of shitty. Too energetic and doesn't feel as good as masturbation. I never understood the point of these things or why they're so celebrated in our world.
 
DeathBecomesMe

DeathBecomesMe

Student
Sep 9, 2018
143
I've been in relationships everyday since I was 15, and from my experience kissing is way more intimate than sex. I must have kissed my gf's by a factor of 100 times less than the number of times having had intercourse. Sex can feel like a dirty chore with a rather hedonist objective of orgasm. We are all hard wired to crave it at some point, but to me it's like eating, only with more of a comedown and more guilt afterwards.

Besides, with porn and mass media, sex in modern times is seriously tainted in most people's minds. It's not what it should be.
 
Slacker

Slacker

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Aug 17, 2018
298
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medusa

Student
Sep 1, 2018
175
I've been in relationships everyday since I was 15, and from my experience kissing is way more intimate than sex. I must have kissed my gf's by a factor of 100 times less than the number of times having had intercourse. Sex can feel like a dirty chore with a rather hedonist objective of orgasm. We are all hard wired to crave it at some point, but to me it's like eating, only with more of a comedown and more guilt afterwards.

Besides, with porn and mass media, sex in modern times is seriously tainted in most people's minds. It's not what it should be.
totally agree-in my childhood, seeing a dirty magazine was shameful and porn was not so common. Now it seems everyone is into gangbangs, BDSM and all kinds of 'extremer' stuff. Plain old sex doesn't seem to cut it for many and a lot of guys expect anal and other things they see in porn which still 70% of women don't do.
 
Duqu

Duqu

Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal!
Aug 27, 2018
450
I don't really like either honestly...I'm asexual (look it up if you don't know, no it doesn't mean I can reproduce asexually). I'll tolerate kissing if it's just basic (no tongue ew) but no sex thank you very much.
 
RM5998

RM5998

Sack of Meat
Sep 3, 2018
2,206
I don't really like either honestly...I'm asexual (look it up if you don't know, no it doesn't mean I can reproduce asexually). I'll tolerate kissing if it's just basic (no tongue ew) but no sex thank you very much.

That makes two of us. Unfortunately, I'm not an aromantic, so... yeah, there's a host of problems because of that caveat.
 
Duqu

Duqu

Curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal!
Aug 27, 2018
450
That makes two of us. Unfortunately, I'm not an aromantic, so... yeah, there's a host of problems because of that caveat.
I'm not aromantic either but I don't care for many physical aspects at all. My last boyfriend DID so I tolerated some but not going so far as to actually have sex with him. Yergh.
 
RM5998

RM5998

Sack of Meat
Sep 3, 2018
2,206
I'm not aromantic either but I don't care for many physical aspects at all. My last boyfriend DID so I tolerated some but not going so far as to actually have sex with him. Yergh.

If my crush re-entered my life, I'm willing to have sex for her. Yes, I abhor the idea and would want to die, but I have faith in her ability to make the pain pass. She was the only person I've ever met who made life... happy. I'm probably miserable now because I've felt that happiness.

Yeah, who am I kidding, I'm not strong enough for that. If she proposed that, I'd try to dodge the act by any means necessary. Probably by fleeing in the night.
 
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medusa

Student
Sep 1, 2018
175
I don't really like either honestly...I'm asexual (look it up if you don't know, no it doesn't mean I can reproduce asexually). I'll tolerate kissing if it's just basic (no tongue ew) but no sex thank you very much.

I thought I was asexual until age 22 when one day the hormones kicked in and I couldn't stop thinking about sex.
But can relate, being asexual is normal and natural and there is nothing wrong with it. It actually makes so many things in life much simpler-having a sex drive can be a pain
 
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TooLate2582

Experienced
May 6, 2018
262
That’s a tough question. It’s what you put into it. I can have the most intimate sex and never kiss her or it can be strictly a business affair where we both know what we want.

Same goes for kissing. Sometimes making out like you’re 14 at the movies is far more intimate than anything or it’s just a means to an end.
 
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medusa

Student
Sep 1, 2018
175
That’s a tough question. It’s what you put into it. I can have the most intimate sex and never kiss her or it can be strictly a business affair where we both know what we want.

Same goes for kissing. Sometimes making out like you’re 14 at the movies is far more intimate than anything or it’s just a means to an end.

I can't imagine having sex without kissing-I have never done it that way:D