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MAIO

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Apr 8, 2018
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While I am close to a nihilist, I believe human suffering matters, even though I believe I am not responsible for suffering my death causes by societal standards (Due to most of the pain being caused by stigmatism and society telling you to put your needs first in any other personal descion unless you have moral obligations like dependent children for instance) I want to prevent as much suffering and guilt as possible. Are there any well written guides or anything you would reccomend writting on a note or anything you thought was very good on a note.
 
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millefeui

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Mar 31, 2018
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I think being direct, straight to the point helps. Explain your situation and your reasoning for killing yourself, and if any of the reasons might make someone that you care about worry that it was their fault, don't include it. After all, the note is for those staying behind, not for yourself, right? It doesn't matter if you are being 100% honest, as long as they suffer less. I think it is important to not let your words, your suicide note sound ambiguous. Everyone interprets stuff in different ways, and the more ambiguous the writing is, the easier it is for multiple random interpretations.

For example, I could mention my troubled relationship with my father in my suicide note (well, it is actually more of a suicide autobiography, but the point stands), but that might cause him to think he didn't do enough for me (he didn't, but I don't need to tell him that after my death), and maybe even blame himself for my death for the rest of his life. I don't want that, so I am not mentioning the issues with our terrible daughter-father relationship. Instead, I will mention the good things about it (after all, it wasn't completely terrible... only for the most part).
 
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MAIO

Elementalist
Apr 8, 2018
838
I think being direct, straight to the point helps. Explain your situation and your reasoning for killing yourself, and if any of the reasons might make someone that you care about worry that it was their fault, don't include it. After all, the note is for those staying behind, not for yourself, right? It doesn't matter if you are being 100% honest, as long as they suffer less. I think it is important to not let your words, your suicide note sound ambiguous. Everyone interprets stuff in different ways, and the more ambiguous the writing is, the easier it is for multiple random interpretations.

For example, I could mention my troubled relationship with my father in my suicide note (well, it is actually more of a suicide autobiography, but the point stands), but that might cause him to think he didn't do enough for me (he didn't, but I don't need to tell him that after my death), and maybe even blame himself for my death for the rest of his life. I don't want that, so I am not mentioning the issues with our terrible daughter-father relationship. Instead, I will mention the good things about it (after all, it wasn't completely terrible... only for the most part).

A very well written note would minimize pain more than an scapegoat right? For instance If I made an incoherent rant leading them to believe I was temp insane for instance?
 
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millefeui

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Mar 31, 2018
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A very well written note would minimize pain more than an scapegoat right? For instance If I made an incoherent rant leading them to believe I was temp insane for instance?
A "very well written" as long as you keep it cohesive, yes.

I think there isn't really a formula for writing a suicide note or letter. If there are ten people you want to read your note, there will be ten different interpretations. On top of what I said earlier, you can only write the best way you can, based on what you know from the people you are directing your note towards. Hope for the best.