- Sep 30, 2018
this is an important question
Perhaps the survival instinct might be stronger in women than in men, even just because they are after all the creators of life physiologically. Some women might disagree i expect. The suicide rate is 75 percent male. This can be put down to women choosing less certain violent methods to an extent but it's a huge disparity. I remember a quote from someone that women are stronger than men and men spend much of their lives trying to convince them otherwise. In my experience with the people i know, not even myself, the women seem to have found it somehow easier to 'move on'. This could be interpreted as heartless by men. In the end, we all suffer but just in different ways and for different reasons. Also society is still stone age and men are not encouraged to express themselves emotionally. Even for this reason to answer the question of the poster, you could say that men suffer more. At least male or female, we don't suffer in silence.I personally think women are stronger then men, they can be more emotional/caring with there mother instincts but are really Heartless and manipulative.
I've been cheated on every relationship i have ever been in, honestly.
*brotherly hugs for all, but sisterly hugs too* But all valid points, maybe it all balances, females have historically been the more vulnerable physically, held down by the patriarchy historically, perhaps because men know these truths, and also, how men can kill over and for women they love...
I'm sorry if I sound sexist, but I still consider trans female to males female in their ability to rebound, at least the ones I were with was, it's like they're both genders then, and therefore there's this supernatural thing going on, like how the mythologies had hermaphrodites as deities (well, that is clinically different I think, but indeed interesting)
But then I remember, this last trans person, the one I am struggling to get over, seemed to genuine until I showed red flags I guess, but then again she was going behind her sort of ex's back when she came onto me, and I gave in of course... she spoke French to me and I was hooked lol
its harder for men because women can get another man easily, men have a lot more difficulty finding another women
you can see this in practice, if go to a chat room and use a man name, no women will say hello but if you use a women name you are bombarded with men attention
on Tinder 20% of the men, the most attractive ones get 80% of the women attention, regular guys dont get a chance
its not easy for trans women, 40% of trans people commit suicide, many trans women are murdered when the men find out they were actually kissing a trans, even on Tinder trans females have a hard time beying matched up if they reveal in their profile that they are trans
I really think knowing some people outside your generation or class might bring you perspective, or reading their stories. I probably shouldn't read these threads, I'm just continually mystified at the things asserted as universal reality that apply only to the most recent generation in some countries and circumstances.
The relationship mobility of women is very new. Actually, the relationship structure discussed in this thread is in many ways modern. Assigning essential gender-based characteristics to it seems misguided.
I agree with those who said those who cared the most and wanted the breakup less suffer most in almost all cases, with an addition that different parties have different things to lose aside from the romance (many fractured ongoing relationships I've seen were the product of misguided coparenting and the convenience of the domestic arrangement for both parties, and no longer requitedly romantic, but their dissolution would have resulted in other suffering).
As to who suffers more after a break up, whether or not an individual is a male or a women is the only variable I can think of that does not matter
I guess you're not very well versed in how research works.and in the linked articel posted they found indeed differences that are caused by different socialisation and gender roles