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WitheringAway

WitheringAway

Ima shake the champagne bottle...
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I’m fully aware that most of you will think I’m dumb. I agree. It was a dumb decision I made on impulse. I met this guy online on a game. We played for a while and we grew too close. he started sending me gifts on the game that costed actual money and I started sending the same back. A little by little, playing together everyday, getting to know each other; our common grounds and differences. We grew really close and had such a special bond relating to each other every day struggles and past. I was never attracted to him in any way, merely viewed him as a really good friend of mine. Someone I can confide in and talk to about anything. We texted, talked on the phone, ate together on FaceTime. I simply found comfort in his company having been on my own for a while, pushing everyone away. I thought he was a friend I actually got to choose instead of having people choosing me as their friend; I don’t know if that makes sense but he was someone “neutral” I can be myself with. Most importantly, he wasn’t someone from the past. As I’m trying to start a new chapter in my life but that’s another long story. Anyway; we grew to be best friend right and just heads up; I NEVER had feeling for him of any sort he expressed his feelings for me but I gently rejected telling him I’m mainly focusing on getting my life together and Id rather be with a female as I don’t think I’m attracted to guys as much anymore. He seemed to understand and was really cool about it. We got back to being good friends. Again, I need to emphasize that he’s not someone I see myself EVER be with in a relationship more than just friends. I’m saying this over and over because one of my real life friends assumed that I did what I did because I liked the guy more than just friends so I don’t want you to assume so. He was just a friend I truly appreciated and trusted
anyway, one day he was venting to me about his struggles with money and how he missed a better job opportunity because his car broke down in flames and burned his hands it was a really long story with that car. he sent me pics of the fire and the car just jet black post fire. And was talking about his friends were offering to help him with money but he was really ashamed to accept the help. After 2 days he told me he finally accepted his friends help under the condition that he pays them back (according to him, his friends were intending to gift him the money, no return expected) but he said he insisted that he gives them everything back once he gets the job and get a new car. So as he was telling me, and me as someone who’s single with a job, car, house, doesn’t have much expenses I offered to give him money. (I’m talking thousands). Because I really felt bad for the guy and he meant so much to me and I felt like he would’ve done the same if the roles were reversed. He waited for a day before he opened my message and then told me immediately that he would accept but on the condition that he would return all of it once he get the job. I told him I’m not expecting a return but if that’s what it’s gonna take for you to accept it, then do what makes you comfortable. He thanked me and sent me his bank acc. I didn’t hesitate to transfer the money. Annnnnd; after almost a week of an on and off awkward messaging, he vanished off the face of the earth. So I now realize that I was scammed. And I feel TERRIBLE!! I was manipulated and I’m doubting the whole story. I wonder who else has he done the same thing to? He seems like such an expert with initiating the whole gifting thing to appear like he didn’t care for money. He took his time with me and everything was so precisely calculated, it’s terrifying. Makes you never trust anyone’s and yes I have to admit, I was also just down right STUPID.
 
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2011.HondaCivic

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Well I guess it depends on the amount of money you lent to him. If it was significantly more than what you typically spent of gifts with each other then yeah you could probably make the proposal that he used you, although it's still not guaranteed. However, if the amount of money was comparable to what you've already been spending I doubt he used you just to get s little extra money. It sounds like you two had a pretty close relationship before this, but to me it just sounds like the two of you naturally drifted apart. Perhaps he was too busy getting everything together? Only he knows, hope this helps!
 
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WitheringAway

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2011.HondaCivic said:
Well I guess it depends on the amount of money you lent to him. If it was significantly more than what you typically spent of gifts with each other then yeah you could probably make the proposal that he used you, although it's still not guaranteed. However, if the amount of money was comparable to what you've already been spending I doubt he used you just to get s little extra money. It sounds like you two had a pretty close relationship before this, but to me it just sounds like the two of you naturally drifted apart. Perhaps he was too busy getting everything together? Only he knows, hope this helps!
My gifts costed approximately 300$ Total. The amount of money in question is thousands. So yeah I wouldn’t compare. I doubt that he’s too busy getting things going on for him. He would literally check in with me all day everyday. And he’s been a ghost for a couple weeks now. 1 week after he got the money. As much as I would love to believe that i wasn’t fooled, sadly every thing points to that. He even dispappeared from my game list so that was my major confirmation.
 
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Didn’t read lol.
But nope.
I honestly get confused as to how people manage to raise so much money via stuff like gofundme.
Like why the fooook did people spend their own money towards something like gorilla glue girl who raised $22k
 
Celerity

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That’s a lot of money, but I also understand why you did it. It can be hard to hear about strangers going through that much less someone you’ve bonded with.
 
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I have a "friend" that was madly in love for a girl he met online. Turns out that girl was a guy instead and my friend ended up paying him a travel to Japan. At least your scam weren't that stupid.

Anyway I wouldn't mind to do it if I had the money. I payed some things in the past and I have welcomed people that I didn't even know in my house and some online friends and people that there's no longer in my life did the same with me when I didn't have anything to eat so why not. I'm sorry that he got you and I sincerely hope that you'll find quality people to spend your life and time.
 
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logan

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A sad story ...

It happens very often on the internet.
Especially in poorer countries, there are mafia-like structures that specialise in this kind of fraud.
 
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Meditation guide

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I can understand doing that. I probably would have too. I'm always trusting if people need money.
 
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LONE WOLF.

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I would never send money to someone online!
 
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I sent a game to a very close online friend a long time ago when it was on sale. That's about it though.
 
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