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Greg

Greg

Student
Jun 30, 2018
187
Mostly talking about adult life stuff before that doesn't really matter to me feels like a trial period. Have dealt with so many assholes either way and I can't think of a single time when someone has said something good about me. That I know of. Without being a sarcastic jerk. hard to think of anything self esteem feels low and I don't want to think that's why I have the whiskey 👍 I sure don't think much of myself so why would others right
 
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shvm

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Dec 22, 2021
42
I heard some girls talking about me and they said they like how independent I am just because I like doing things alone and don't ask for company or help. little do they know Im anti-social and prefer being alone as much as I can.
 
greencondo

greencondo

Member
Sep 25, 2019
63
I Have been guilty of not saying nice things enough in the past, because I thought they would find it ingenuine or a suck up, or that it might be too vulnerable for me to say. For a long time, It (wrongly) didn't cross my mind that people would need to hear positive feedback from others. I can't imagine I'm alone in that.
I grew out of it, but that was mostly because of my line of work.

There also also possible times that someone might say something nice about you, but if you are feeling down about yourself you may have missed it or blew it off. I know that's happened to me.

Then there are times I subjected myself to people who all they said was critical things about me. Not only did I see myself as less but it taught me to treated others poorly. I regret that.
 
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Manaaja

Manaaja

euROPE
Sep 10, 2018
902
I have been called intelligent and a good listener and self-observant/self-aware and kind and empathic and having a good sense of humor.

I wish people would praise each other more. Just like a lot of dogs, most people are more likely to do something when they get verbally rewarded for that.
 
motel rooms

motel rooms

So sodomitic.
Apr 13, 2021
5,903
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I sometimes pretend I'm foreign in the summer to hear what people have to say about me. Italians shamelessly talk about foreigners with their friend, the waiter or even a random passerby right in front of them. They usually disapprove of my clothes. A waitress once said, "It's so fucking obvious he's American, an Italian wouldn't be caught dead wearing a plain white t-shirt. Look at those boring shorts & flip-flops, OMFG! Also, would it kill him to groom those eyebrows & shave? So hairy too, yuck! What a waste, he's actually not bad-looking, nice & tall." All of that in like 3 seconds, with a big fake smile on her overly made-up face. :))
 
Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
16,233
I’ve been complimented on my looks, intelligence, humility, patience, and even skills many times in real life. I hope if people are talking about me behind my back that they’re saying horrible things but I kind of doubt it.

I know the truth though, those kinds of compliments tend to come from people who don’t know me enough and thus don’t know any better or they know me too well and are intentionally trying to make me feel good by feeding me undeserved praise. I wish people wouldn’t be so dishonest but then again I’m such an evil person that I often take the wrongful praise or at least ignore it anyway. 😔
 
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GenesAndEnvironment

GenesAndEnvironment

FUBAR
Jan 26, 2021
5,122
I sometimes pretend I'm foreign in the summer to hear what people have to say about me. Italians shamelessly talk about foreigners with their friend, the waiter or even a random passerby right in front of them. They usually disapprove of my clothes. A waitress once said, "It's so fucking obvious he's American, an Italian wouldn't be caught dead wearing a plain white t-shirt. Look at those boring shorts & flip-flops, OMFG! Also, would it kill him to groom those eyebrows & shave? So hairy too, yuck! What a waste, he's actually not bad-looking, nice & tall." All of that in like 3 seconds, with a big fake smile on her overly made-up face. :))
I am always amazed at how people actually think fashion/heavy make-up/hairstyles make someone more attractive. It can be seen through easily at close range.
 
motel rooms

motel rooms

So sodomitic.
Apr 13, 2021
5,903
I am always amazed at how people actually think fashion/heavy make-up/hairstyles make someone more attractive. It can be seen through easily at close range.

Imho clothes can't make a man look much better. They can impress superficial materialists, but all I care about are decent muscles. :)) A poor hairstyle choice can be sad. Keep it simple, fool. :haha: The real problem & one of the scariest things about my country is that so many guys meticulously groom their fucking eyebrows. :sick: Why do women make str8 dudes do that?! Isn't it enough that they make them shave their chests? It seems that only gays of my persuasion don't shave their body hair.

Women can hide/accentuate a lot of stuff if they pick the right hairstyles for their face shape & wear the right kind of clothes for their body type, but it can all be seen through pretty easily up close, yes.
 
zeroornothing

zeroornothing

Global Mod “Ye shall be as gods..🐍🍎”
Jun 22, 2021
1,915
I know I suck badly so I really dont care much if I learned someone is saying good or bad things behind my back. I dont take it personally because my active self is not my real self. It is a result of things outside my control like my fucked up physiology (autism) my enviroment (trauma) etc
 
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idiotstillwantstodie

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Nov 11, 2021
173
I don't really know any nice people. I don't give a fuck what those asswipes say or don't say. The bad things don't matter, true as some of them might be, and neither do the good things.
 
FuneralCry

FuneralCry

I want to sleep for an eternity.
Sep 24, 2020
7,454
I do not know many people in the first place, but even if I did what they would say does not matter to me. There is nothing good that anybody could say about me, but I do not care.
 
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AverageFanEnjoyer

AverageFanEnjoyer

The Hated One
Sep 26, 2021
1,890
I've had few times in my life where I've been told nice things and still can't wrap my mind around how someone can say something nice about me. Given how harshly I was treated most of the time, it's really difficult to accept the opposite. I try my best still.
 
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Greg

Greg

Student
Jun 30, 2018
187
I Have been guilty of not saying nice things enough in the past, because I thought they would find it ingenuine or a suck up, or that it might be too vulnerable for me to say. For a long time, It (wrongly) didn't cross my mind that people would need to hear positive feedback from others. I can't imagine I'm alone in that.
I grew out of it, but that was mostly because of my line of work.

There also also possible times that someone might say something nice about you, but if you are feeling down about yourself you may have missed it or blew it off. I know that's happened to me.

Then there are times I subjected myself to people who all they said was critical things about me. Not only did I see myself as less but it taught me to treated others poorly. I regret that.
You are right I forgot that I tend to think of it as sarcasm if someone compliments me. I do try to say positive things to someone else as well if I think they need to hear it.
I've had few times in my life where I've been told nice things and still can't wrap my mind around how someone can say something nice about me. Given how harshly I was treated most of the time, it's really difficult to accept the opposite. I try my best still.
So true
 
greencondo

greencondo

Member
Sep 25, 2019
63
You are right I forgot that I tend to think of it as sarcasm if someone compliments me. I do try to say positive things to someone else as well if I think they need to hear it.

So true
Also, many times we don't even realize someone needed to hear it. Sometimes they didn't even realize they needed to hear it. People get so use to hearing criticism it becomes normal.